I’ll start by saying I’m mistrustful of midwives following horrible hospital birth of DC1. DC2 was a homebirth, and I’d really like a water birth this time. The local birth centre has a pool in each room, and it seems easier to go there than hire a home birth pool (I’m lazy!)
Now at 37 weeks I’m getting myself all worked up thinking that the midwives won’t let me use the pool, for whatever reason, even an invented one. As I said, I struggle to trust them.
Can they refuse you if your blood pressure is slightly high, if you won’t have internal examinations, if you’re 41-42weeks?
Obviously there are reasons why they wouldn't let you use the pool but you'd have to assume that if they have them in every room, a refusal wouldn't be for frivalous reasons. Why don't you ask the birthing centre for a list of their criteria then you'll know what to expect.
Basically anything that would make your delivery high risk would generally mean you wouldn’t be able to labour in the pool. This could be something that is present before labour eg a baby estimated under 10th centile, significantly high BP, diabetes or it could be something that happens during labour eg baby passing meconium, abnormalities in the fetal heart rate or you developing a fever
Declining internals shouldn't be a factor, I declined all but one and nothing was really said.
Have you spoken to the midwives? I know you don't trust them, but perhaps if they talk to you about it you might feel better? Some hospitals and birthing centres have midwives who specialise in helping women who have had previous trauma that makes birth more difficult for them.
If there's meconium, if you're not contracting enough or strongly enough, if you have to be induced by a drip they won't let you, if your labour is particularly fast they may not have time to fill the pool.
But if everything goes relatively smoothly it will be fine. Try (if you can) not to get too fixed on wanting a particular thing (for your own sake if it doesn't work out for whatever reason). How have you found your midwives so far? Have you met any from the birth centre? Most of them are lovely.
Very best of luck - wishing you a calm watery birth
Thanks for all your replies, I do need to stop fretting and speak to the midwives. soapboxqueen asking about the criteria is a good suggestion.
blueA4 the midwives at the birth centre has been nice but impersonal. I see a new person each time, tick off the questions but there’s no time for chatting or asking about ‘me’. And they’re all so young! (I’m 38).
At out mlu birth centre they were all for us using the birthing pools. People with iv inductions, iv antibiotics or other complications were whisked upstairs to the labour ward so basically if you were in the mlu you could he in the pool. I had to get out at the end due to tons of meconium but even though I’d not consciously pushed I knew ds was just one push away (don’t ask me how I knew I just did) so I got out and one push he was out.
I was high risk until 36 weeks when I was signed back to MW led care. Then doing the checklist with the MW I was low risk at that point and signed off for the birthing unit. On my due date my blood pressure was up on six readings, they were happy to leave me for a few days, I popped at 40+5 and had my DAD on the midwife led unit. I found them to be quite reasonable, so am sorry you had a bad experience x
I wasnt allowed one as my blood pressure was too low. I was gutted but mw said given my ds was 11lb 0.5oz it was perhaps a good thing i wasnt in the water whereas i thought it would of helped. Delivery was totally fine albeit an "on land" one lol
I wasn't allowed a pool birth due to be induced with a drip (gel induction is fine).
Also, just to add - I had three midwifes during my long labour, they were all fantastic, but my favourite was the last one who was around 28 - age really doesn't matter. The older ones in the days after ended up being the worse (leaving me for a day without any pain killers, not helping with different issues) I think it depends on the person and not the age.