Sorry if title is a bit strange.
I'm currently pg with DC2, DC1 was an extremely quick labour - we got to the hospital and I was ready to push so I didn't actually experience the whole labour on the ward, just the pushing stage.
I've recently spoken to a few mums and also read a bit about bad experiences when it comes to midwives and the general way they treat and talk to labouring patients.
Also I've heard a lot about women in labour not being listened to - a friend told me a lady in bed next to hers kept telling the midwife she wanted to push and was ready and if she (the midwife) could check but kept being fobbed off and told she wasn't - another midwife came in and it turned out the lady was crowning!
Another one where the midwife was trying to get a patient to take some pills - the patient repeatedly refused as she said they made her feel light headed and not in control of what she was doing and she wanted to be aware of everything as she laboured, the midwife proceeded to push the cup with the pills right towards the patients lips, the patients swore at her and pushed her away. Other midwife came in and told sent first midwife home as apparently it wasn't the first patient she upset that day...
Also heard lots of stuff about snide comments, wired doctors, patients not being allowed to birth in any other position apart from on their backs despite there being no risk associated with anything and being refused pain relief other than gas and air/pain relief being deliberately discouraged and/or delayed etc.
I don't know how common that is, if I'm just being hormonal and silly and I know people always talk about the bad more but I'm a bit worried about being in a vulnerable position and potentially not having the right people with me. I'm not great at asserting myself either.
I guess I just wanted to ask for people's experiences?
How have you found your birth experience?
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Can midwives really be mean?
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FGSholdthedoor · 26/10/2017 21:26
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