Hello everyone,
I'm 40 years old and my wonderful husband and I are expecting our first child in a couple of months - I'm just into my 7th month. I'm a bit nervous of course. Think we've just had quite a big argument as I mentioned that I'm assuming his relatives might naturally want to hold off visiting us when the baby arrives until at least 2-3 days after we are all home so we can recover. He was quite upset and thinks I'm being over dramatic to stipulate a minimum time. Am I? I thought 2-3 days in private rest sounds ok?? I want reassurance that I'll have time to recover as I feel under pressure already with the excitedness of his big family - and he feels quite angry that his needs and the needs of his family (who are so keen to come down as soon as possible) aren't being met. I said quite calmly that I'd like to be able to see how I feel - and I feel quite angry that I'm being told by him that I'm being over-dramatic to assume that I'll need some space - but I'm only asking for 2-3 days. Is it over-dramatic or will I come home full of energy wanting to throw a street party??! I only have one member of the family, my dad, to consider as a visitor whereas my husband has a very keen large family (who are absolutely lovely by the way). I love his family - a lot, truly - but I just need to know I'll have some space. I'm happy to admit that my default setting is 'back off' in this situation (although I'd never actually say that to anyone) and also I don't come from a large family and I LOVE privacy. He's really angry with me and feels his needs aren't being met. Any kind thoughts please?
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How soon is it reasonable for relatives to come and visit the newborn?
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GardenDreamer · 11/09/2017 00:15
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