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Would you have your mum at your birth?

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BrollyDolly Sat 24-Jun-17 19:37:19

Just that really?
People find it weird that I don't want my mum there with me?!
Am I the only one who thinks it's abnormal to want your mum there?

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EllaHen Sat 24-Jun-17 19:39:50

Depends entirely on your relationship with her surely?

I did have my Mum at dc1's birth. She was great.

Gunpowder Sat 24-Jun-17 19:40:48

I had my mum there for DD1. She was really lovely but made me feel more edgy really, as I felt she was worrying on my behalf. DD2 I went into labour overnight (had home birth) and didn't call her. It's such a personal choice and 100% your call. Have you you want to have! (Or just MWs if you prefer!)

GeorgeTheHamster Sat 24-Jun-17 19:41:48

I'm pretty sure my mum was present at my birth 😄

Flanderspigeonmurderer Sat 24-Jun-17 19:42:02

No I wouldn't have. She is incredibly anxious and would be noticeably worried.

OlennasWimple Sat 24-Jun-17 19:42:43

I would quite liked to have had her there, but circumstances meant that wasn't possible. She was the first person to see me and DS other than DH, though, and that was very special to me indeed

Lules Sat 24-Jun-17 19:43:23

God no. I love my mum dearly but I might have killed her if she'd been there.

Slightlyperturbedowlagain Sat 24-Jun-17 19:44:21

Definitely not!

Slightlyperturbedowlagain Sat 24-Jun-17 19:44:39

Definitely not!

Slightlyperturbedowlagain Sat 24-Jun-17 19:45:30

double posting not intended but oddly appropriate grin

Bear2014 Sat 24-Jun-17 19:45:40

Absolutely no way! We're very close and get on great but I literally couldn't imagine anything worse.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday Sat 24-Jun-17 19:46:15

No I didn't and wouldn't have wanted her there but my 2 dds, in their twenties, have both said they want me with them when they give birth. I'm not sure I want to be though, I'd is be so, so worried fir them. I would do it if they asked at the time though.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday Sat 24-Jun-17 19:46:41

Excuse typos!

Ohb0llocks Sat 24-Jun-17 19:46:57

George beat me to it.

I didn't have my mum there with DS1. I'm a very anxious person and so is she and we tend to feed off eachother.

I'm due DS2 in the autumn, she won't be there then either as she will be looking afte DS1!

Strokethefurrywall Sat 24-Jun-17 19:48:13

I would have both my mum and MIL if I were to ever have my mythical 3rd child. As well as DH.

That being said, I never felt I needed my mum at either of my births or labors and the fact we live 4000 miles from the U.K. it would have been difficult to time it.

I loved just DH and I being present but for the final one, sure why not!

ColdTeddy Sat 24-Jun-17 19:48:33

I assume you meant 'would you have your mum there when you're giving birth?' grin.

My dm accidentally ended up being there when I gave birth to dc1 that we asked her to be there when I had dc2 too. She was fab and knew just what to say and do to make the whole process go more smoothly. And she brought us nice things to eat after the birth too smile.

I don't know anyone else who had their mum present though.

OdinsLoveChild Sat 24-Jun-17 19:48:57

Absolutely not. I didn't need her present getting the babies in and certainly didn't need her there getting them out either confused

SwedishEdith Sat 24-Jun-17 19:48:58

Depends on circumstances. She was for the 1st as no father around. It was lovely for her (and me).

FidgetSpinner Sat 24-Jun-17 19:49:00

My mum was at my births and I was at dds birth when she had dgs. I know lots of people find it weird but its what we do in our family.

justdontevenfuckingstart Sat 24-Jun-17 19:49:13

I had mum at DD1 with exoh, just ex at dd2 but would have liked it to be my mum.
Everyone's different, make sure you do what you want.

Janek Sat 24-Jun-17 19:50:32

Nope. We get on really well, but nope.

Yogagirl123 Sat 24-Jun-17 19:52:02

DS1 DH and MIL, DS2 just DH, MIL was looking after DS1

NapQueen Sat 24-Jun-17 19:52:09

Nope. We see each other a few times a week, socialise together, holiday together.

No way.

Its just for me and dh.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 Sat 24-Jun-17 19:52:56

Yes, I would love my mum there. When I'm pregnant, ideally I would like both DH and mum if they're both happy with that.

NanooCov Sat 24-Jun-17 19:54:26

No. My mum is a worrier and would wind me up badly.

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