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Happilymarried155 Sat 28-Jan-17 19:52:25

Has anyone done this? What was the reaction?

Obviously, if baby needs extra care I wouldn't discharge us. However last time I had to stay in for 2 nights due to bad tear. By the third day I didn't get discharged until 6pm and I felt awful. I hadn't slept in days, eaten a proper or had a proper shower I was so close to tears for the whole day. As soon as I got home I felt normal again! Added to this I now have a little boy who is only just 2 that I will want to get back to. How easy is it to just tell people you are going home!

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RandomMess Sat 28-Jan-17 19:57:39

I did in the middle of the night with DC2, with DC3 I told them I was not staying in so the paediatrician came and checked the baby out within 6/7 hours and I went home then, they weren't happy about it but the accepted my decision.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Sat 28-Jan-17 20:00:43

They aim to discharge in 6 hours here all being well, so you may not even have to worry.

I was very poorly after DD1 but she was fine, so I discharged myself on day 3 as I knew I would recover better at home where I could rest properly etc. I just had to sign a disclaimer and assured them that if I went downhill I would go straight back, it was fine smile

Runningbutnotscared Sat 28-Jan-17 20:01:02

Given that the NHS is stretched and keeping people in beds is expensive I should think you will have no problem calmly explaining to the midwives that you have a child at home you want to get back to.
They don't want to keep you there any more than you want to be there.

When I was last in the women in the bed opposite me wanted to go home within hours, but they persuaded her to stay for one night so the paediatrician could do checks on baby in the morning.

If you had an bad tear it sounds right that they were right to keep you in though.

If your anxious could you consider a home birth? Perhaps a MWL unit?

Ilovecaindingle Sat 28-Jan-17 20:06:24

Had my dd new years eve several years ago. Had to stay in as was risk of pph. . Bay of 4 and other 3 had been csections so lots of buzzing and assistance going on. Fair enough but meant no sleep for me. Woken up at 12 for new year wishes etc!
Morning arrives with the announcement that open house to visitors for all!!
No lie - the woman opposites family arrived with a pull along wicker bloody hamper!! Out came champers and all sorts of delights!!
I discharged myself to go home for some r&r and to spend the day with my family!!

ToadsforJustice Sat 28-Jan-17 20:09:56

Of course you can discharge yourself. Just walk out. You are not a prisoner.

Trainspotting1984 Sat 28-Jan-17 20:11:22

Always said I'd do this but couldn't physically manage it due to birth injuries. However they said I had to pass wind before I could leave and I just lied about that. Best decision I ever made

RandomMess Sat 28-Jan-17 20:12:56

Actually when you have a baby, you cannot just walk out and take baby with you, that would set panic stations off!!! You do need to do formal discharge, the 6 hours baby check is very important.

Put it on your birth notes, speak to your midwives. If your baby is born late evening they will probably want to discharge you the following morning as the paediatrician will be on call rather than working a regular shift.

ToadsforJustice Sat 28-Jan-17 20:19:51

Why can't you walk out? Why do you need a formal discharge?

Happilymarried155 Sat 28-Jan-17 20:21:47

I really hope your all right!

I would love a home birth but dh was too worried. Up until 2 weeks ago I thought I was going to MWL but have just been told that I have polyhdramnios and gestational diabetes so now they won't take me! I suppose that's why I've only started worrying about staying in now as I really thought it wouldn't be a problem!

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RandomMess Sat 28-Jan-17 20:29:04

Not 100% sure but I think legally the hospital has an enhanced duty of care for the baby until discharge?

The 6 hour rule is because there are certain health issues that if they occur at birth they don't always appear until up to 6 hours later, it's that length of time for safety reasons. If you just disappeared with a baby prior to formal discharge the hospital wouldn't just shrug their shoulders and go "oh they've gone home" - remember the mum that took her baby and committed suicide/infanticide?

RandomMess Sat 28-Jan-17 20:31:32

I did say I was leaving (2am) and they wouldn't let the baby leave without being seen, I did offer to leave baby behind grin - I was very desperate for some f*cking sleep at this point in time...

Gaaaah Sat 28-Jan-17 20:34:14

I left the hospital last time without my baby having had her checks. I told them as soon as I got there that I wanted out asap. The midwife said I'd have to have her by a certain time, which I did. I was allowed to stay on delivery until paperwork was completed and left at 8 at night. A senior midwife came in the morning and did the newborn checks on our dining table! We went back to the hospital when she was a couple of days old for the hearing tests.

ToadsforJustice Sat 28-Jan-17 20:37:41

The hospital can have their policies. In essence, if you and your baby are feeling well, the hospital cannot hold you prisoner. You are free to leave. If you make noises to leave it's amazing how quickly the "discharge" can happen. You will see a MW at home anyway, it's not as if you are going to be left to get on with it.

RandomMess Sat 28-Jan-17 20:39:30

LOL Gaaah, love the time limit & even more that you made it!

With DC3 it was in the heatwave of August 2003 they tried to tell me it was too cold to take the baby home at 11pm at night - it was 20 degrees gringrin and the hot water had broken down in the maternity unit!!!

AndNowItsSeven Sat 28-Jan-17 20:41:00

You can just walk out, however the hospital can legally keep your baby in their care until SS arrive.

TellMeHowToLiveMyLife Sat 28-Jan-17 20:43:41

I left 4 hours after having ds1. They did the 6 hour check the following day (which they were going to do anyway as I'd given birth at 5ish and the doctors weren't doing the rounds at night).

UpYaKilt Sat 28-Jan-17 20:46:46

If you've got gestational diabetes it's likely that the baby will need blood sugar levels monitoring for a while after birth, so a 6 hour discharge is fairly unlikely.

ToadsforJustice Sat 28-Jan-17 20:50:15

Please explain "legally keep your baby".

jinglestheelf Sat 28-Jan-17 20:54:40

I had GD three times. The babies all needed their blood sugars monitoring after birth. The earliest I made it home was two days after the birth.

Gaaaah Sat 28-Jan-17 20:58:40

I know! She said I had to have her before 2pm in order to leave that night. She was born at 2pm and straight away, I said "I'm going, so get the papers done!"

20 degrees grin

AbbeyRoadCrossing Sat 28-Jan-17 21:01:11

You can discharge yourself but if they have any worries about the baby then you can't discharge the baby. That's what I was told when I had DS back in 2014 anyway was too hormonal / drugged up to look into if that was true or not.

Happilymarried155 Sat 28-Jan-17 21:03:38

I'm hoping bloody sugars will be OK, I have only just been diagnosed at 36 weeks and I haven't had a high blood sugar since even though I haven't changed my diet too much. Obviously if I need to for the baby il stay in. Really useful advice here, thank you everyone!

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minipie Sat 28-Jan-17 21:26:17

With GD they will keep your baby in for blood sugar checks for 24 hours minimum (longer if any fail). We were in for 48 hours (one test failed despite well controlled diet and sugar levels). Sorry.

My advice to get out asap - do whatever you can to get baby's blood sugars up after the birth, formula or if you want to fully BF then hand express into a syringe (ask the midwives for some help) so you can top up after feeds with extra colostrum.

Also, ask if there are any amenity rooms (ie private rooms! ) - my hospital has them, they are given firsto to those with medical need but if any are empty you can pay £100 and get it. Sooo much better than a ward. Yours may have them?

RandomMess Sat 28-Jan-17 21:36:09

I had an unexpectedly large baby (they told me a measured small for dates - LOL) so they were very concerned about her blood sugar levels, hence my offer to leave the baby behind whilst I went home at 2am to get some sleep - think this was day 3 post birth! In the end I gave her a bottle of hospital formula (not sure you get that anymore) as the bfing was going too badly (maternity was packed due to baby boom) as soon as we got home (about 3 miles away) then we all had 5/6 hours solid sleep and life suddenly felt so much better!

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