i hope you dont mind i need some more advice-you gave me some about me having been told no more csections after 3,then told i could but maybe bowel damage...anyway,on monday went to see gp who said he wouldnt advice it as could mean dh off work looking after me for 6 months.was very upset but then someone said theyd had there 3rd csection horizontally because of this risk to bladder,bowel.is this common do you know?and why would they not have said?
sorry to keep asking you but i dont know who else!feel free to tell me to go away!
i was refered to consultant who said i could but be aware of complications so i saw gp about possible complications and effect it would have on me looking after 4 childre,.last csection resulted in tear to bladder due to scar tissue.
Kitty, I meant ask for a referral for a second opinion from another consultant. Go in with a variety of consultant options in case GP says "hmmm, I don't know who. We use this huys." and Then you can say, well look here are some options for you.
ok,thankyou.can gp refuse to refer me if he thinks its bad idea?not that i think he would but he just didnt get my need for one more child.and i sat there like a dope bawling my eyes out unable to explain!
I think you have a right to a second opinion on the NHS. But, if he refuses and it's really impotant to you -- and obviously it is -- get a new GP. It's your life and if he can't be bothered to help you then you are better off with a new GP.
I just really don't understand why a previous laceration poses a problem now. Surely it is all healed. Maybe he is just anti-section and wants to save the NHS some money by convincing you not to return for another op. Or maybe there are valid concerns tha tI just don't understand -- because I am not a doctor.
When I was pregnant with my second I went to the GP and told him I didn't want to go to the local hospital. He was a real arse and told me I didn't have a choice. I was so upset. I left his office, got a new GP, and went to the hospital I wanted to go to. He is a complete arse and tell everyone about him. My point is you have a right to get some answers. And it isn't your fault if they can't be arsed.
What about paying to visit a consultant privately, just to have a 30 minute chat and get his opinion. Then if he thinks it's okay, go get knocked up and tell the NHS your pregnant and seeking free medical attention.