DH & alcohol at 39+5

[Babytalkobsession]

Hello,

I'm 39+5 with dc2. Dc1 came at 39+2. I've had some cramps, braxton sets but no signs labour is particularly imminent but I guess you never know!

My question is, am I being unreasonable not wanting DH to drink just in case it labour does start quickly? He had a beer & was about to open a bottle of wine. I said I'd rather he didn't just in case. Wondering if that's a bit ott on my part? With dc1 I had to go straight in to hospital as started bleeding heavily. So I didn't have the latent phase at home. This is probably affecting my judgement a bit just in case it happens again.

What would you do?

[Ilovenannyplum]

YANBU
he should really be a bit more responsible, hope baby doesn't keep you waiting too long

[SantasLittleMonkeyButler]

I would prefer him not to be drinking alcohol this week, yes.

[ladybird69]

My arse of an ex refused to stop going out weekly for his weekly binging sessions, he told me to phone an ambulance and he'd meet me there! So I'd be stuck at home in early Labour feeling terrified
By babies 3 & 4 he was actually a hindrance and wound me up, so much so I wanted to deliver alone. Bloody knob.
I hope that you can get your partner to step up and show his worth, it's a scary time for you and he should step up to the mark and be your husband and babys daddy and support you and ease your worries. It's not too much to ask is it?
Best wishes

[Babytalkobsession]

Glad I'm not must being precious then! He's fine with leaving it at the 1 beer - it was just a Saturday night instinct to grab the wine (I'm looking forward to being able to join him soon!) so not a case of him not being supportive, just not really thinking. I just felt a bit precious as Sod's law nothing with happen for a week or two!

Thanks for your replies

[kiki22]

I think from about 38 weeks your designated driver has to be able to drive at a moments notice and your birth partner needs to be sober too. Unless there is a very special occasion i don't think a few weeks of not drinking is a hardship, even then 1 or 2 is enough.

I'm drink myself fairly regularly (not when pregnant obviously) and would have no issues stopping for a while if I was a birth partner.

[MadeForThis]

A beer isn't going to hurt anyone. It's unlikely that he would need to drive before that is out of his system but any more is taking a big chance.
I'm sure he wasn't thinking when he went to open the wine.
Congratulations on your imminent arrival.

[Dixiechick17]

YANBU my DH didn't drink more than one or two in the last month of my pregnancy. Quick labour in the end so doubly glad he didn't

[Gracey79]

Defo not being unreasonable we manage for 9 months without a drink surely they can manage a couple of weeks.