I had a traumatic hospital birth for my first baby about 3 years ago.
my water broke early, waited for 3 days but no natural labor, gave in for induction, after 24hrs of starting induction - 9cm dilated but no further progress for 7hrs, which ended in c-section.
i am due in 4 weeks for my 2nd baby. i'm 40 now, healthy & fit, with no complications whatsoever so far. but i am starting to have a real nervous breakdown on the hospital birth again - fearing that it will end up with unnecessary interventions like the first.
i got a doula to support me this time, and live in 10min walking distance to the hospital. if i plan to go to the hospital as late as possible anyway, i really would like to give a chance to try a home birth this time. my husband is more traumatized by the first birth than me and i do feel going into the hospital labor ward again will NOT help me in any way for a successful VBAC this time.
from the beginning, the consultant just told me a few things:
- due to my c-section and age, i will be under consultant-led care
- i will have to deliver in labor ward with continuous fetal monitoring
- i won't be allowed to go beyond my due date & i cannot be induced (the result? never spelled out clearly as 'we want you to go for c-section')
so far (till 35wks), i have seen consultant 3 times, midwife twice. and no one seems to care about discussing the birth plan - possibly because i never met anyone more than once. yesterday i met a midwife who obviously thought i was not one of her responsibilities and did not want to discuss about any possibilities for home birth or use of birthing suite instead of labor suite (which does not provide any 'natural birth aids') and i strongly felt that she just wanted to rush me out of her room.
do you think i will have a chance to convince someone in NHS to support me for home birth at this stage? who should i contact? since my named midwife has been so uninvolved throughout (only met her once for the first appointment), i am not sure who to start convincing to get the home birth midwife team's involvement.