I'm currently 17+5 weeks (due early November) so I have a bit of time to make a decision about it. I'm leaning towards wanting an additional body there during my birth and for support before/after but I'm not really sure if it's worth it.
The support before and after are probably just as important to me as during the birth. DH is much better than he was but he is inclined to freak out a bit in stressful situations. I'm really worried about ending up in the hospital to have the baby and would much prefer an MLU with somebody there to advocate for me and my preferred circumstances, a lot of people I know have had shite experiences in the maternity ward where we'll be going, particularly after the birth. I'm currently down as high-risk but I'm hoping that can be 'down-graded' in light of recently medical tests and notes.
We're going to be relocating at 30 weeks and living with my parents for a while as long as they don't drive me up the wall so I will have some live-in "support" once DH is back to work, especially for the practical elements, but I don't know if I can rely on my family for emotional support or support with things like breastfeeding and I know I'm prone to depression which my family likely won't pick up on at all if it does start to sink in. I don't want masses of after-birth support but maybe somebody to pop in a few times in the weeks following and make sure that I'm doing okay.
I'm also worried about the birth and the time leading up to it, preparing for it and so on but would a doula really be that helpful before the birth? Would I be better doing some form of hypnobirthing course or something?
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Dithering over whether to get a doula
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RattieOfCatan · 31/05/2016 09:38
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