I'm devastated I can't have a homebirth and keep crying about a hospital birth when I'm alone. I have a hospital tour booked Sunday and I'm really worried about having a complete breakdown there. They found GBS in my urine and my community midwife said she cannot anminister the antibiotics at home and I can't seem to get anywhere with the alternatives. My husband is convinced I'm not going to tell anyone I'm in labour and it'll be too late to get to the hospital, which I have honestly thought about doing as a delivery on the hard shoulder is preferable to a hospital birth. However at the same time I don't want to put my baby at risk of GBS disease so feel obliged to go to the hospital. I deeply distrust healthcare professionals too.
My terrible fear of the hospital came from my first delivery where the midwife preformed an episiotomy without my consent and caused me nerve damage, which I chose not to have "fixed" in case it was made worse by the same hospital (a large women's hospital in the region). The episiotomy was completely unnecessary as they just wanted the baby out quicker due to a busy suite. This time round my husband will be recording the conversation regarding performing an episiotomy unless they can categorically prove not having one would be detrimental to my baby. We want to make it clear to them we will be suing the individual and the hospital if our requests are ignored. Has anyone gone about setting down the law in this way before?
I was also hoping to discharge us as soon as we're dressed and baby is in the car seat as the postnatal care I received was shocking. I had to ask for a new sheet for my baby's cot, the facilities were that dirty that the midwife on the ward warned me not to use them, my bed was broken and I didn't have a chair suitable for breastfeeding in and I was constantly berated by the midwives on the ward and treated like a nuisance. The list goes on. My community midwife has now dropped the bombshell I'm likely to be asked to stay for at least 24 hours. If this time around is like the first though I'll be creating such a shit storm that I doubt they'll want to keep me much longer than they have to.
Granted I am going to a different hospital this time but it is of the same ilk as the first. My mom is not helping either as she keeps saying it's a failing hospital, I honestly don't think she knows how strongly I'm feeling about it all. I didn't have a difficult labour at all and didn't find it painful until the moment the midwife touched me to perform an episiotomy, up until then I had laboured with my husband and was even pushing my baby out without any guidance from the midwife, so I trust my body to know what to do.
Apologies for the long post I needed to vent and now I'm looking to see if anyone has got any positive second birth hospital stories to lift my spirits?
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SpeckledFrog2014 · 17/05/2016 16:20
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