Mega long post alert! So, I just chucked a cup across the room in sheer frustration. Need to vent. My husbands temper and attitude towards me for the last 3 weeks has got progressively worse to the point where I'm not sure I want him at our home birth. Tonight was the icing on the cake. It seems trivial and I know he loves me but he's driving me insane. We were watching a tv show together and my phone rang. It was my best friend. We've been trying to talk for a while as she recently had a home birth, also with her second and I really wanted to get some advice from her. We paused the show, I apologised and said I'd like to take the call. He rolled his eyes and picked up his phone. We spoke for about 25 mins and it was so helpful. I've not been sleeping due to anxiety about the birth recently and it really felt good to talk to someone I trust who's recently been through it. Anyway, throughout the conversation my husband was sighing regularly and rolling his eyes. Stamping about. Visibly annoyed and getting more annoyed. Threw my daughters toy buggy across the kitchen when he got up to eat something. Generally made me feel very uneasy about being on the call. I was gently trying to end the call, although I didn't want to but I also didnt want another argument with him. Anyway, when I did come off the call I said 'what was that about? The eye rolling and the sighing?. I really needed to have that conversation for both of us' he said 'what the fuck is wrong with you? I wanted to watch the show. You never said you'd be that long' he then pressed play on the tv. I asked him to switch it off, I wanted to talk to him. He said no. I asked again and said please, I think it's unfair you made me feel like that. He started laughing at me and said 'look at yourself, you're getting raging. I've done nothing. I'm watching this. Can you shut up.' That's when I lost it and told him to grow up. It's meant to be both of us having this baby, not just me. I threw my cup on the floor (empty and on the carpet) and told him to watch it himself. I'm now upstairs with blood pressure through the roof and a week away from my due date thinking, is that the person I want to be supporting me through this? Is it just me or is he acting really selfishly? I can't tell if my hormones/lack of sleep/anxiety are to blame or if he's really acting like an idiot. There have been three other occasions were he's blown up at me and spoken to me like I'm something on the bottom of his shoe and if I've tried to talk to him about it, he's point blank refused. He says he knows he's angrier than normal just now, he doesn't know why. He doesn't want to talk about it. So sorry for the long post. X
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