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Independent midwife questions

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Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 10:27:06

Hi ladies, I haven't posted in ages but I'm looking for some experiences/opinions now I'm expecting a longed for dc2. Early days, far too early to be freaking out about midwife care but it's bugging me so I'm researching now!

Dc1 was born at home with no pain relief after a short efficient labour, birth pool, no blood loss, placenta no problems, fantastic doula. Only problem was the NHS midwives were loud/shouty/rude/ignored birth plan/then did an examination without consent which still upsets me. I've had my booking appt and my cmw (same one as prev pregnancy) says things will be different this time. But I don't see how they can promise that.

So I'm seriously interested in using a IM. I know cost is about £4k, which is a lot of money but ultimately we can do it if I work some more shifts this summer and skip the holidays next year.

So I guess those who've done it, what do you think?

Thanks a million xxx

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 14:56:55

I did! The best money I've ever spent. I couldn't recommend it enough.

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 15:36:24

Aww yeah no one seems to regret spending the money x

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 15:36:45

Did you home birth pandas?

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 15:44:17

Yes I did - it was amazing. The midwives I had were incredible

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 16:44:20

If you're in the general London/southeast area, feel free to inbox me if you want their contact details

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 17:24:22

No I'm midlands based, I'm starting to see it as a really nice treat for myself, that's probably wrong!

Shedding Tue 10-Feb-15 17:27:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 17:37:38

Not sure what is 121 midwives?

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 17:38:05

Middle midlands, sorry I realised I hadn't answered the question!

anothergenericname Tue 10-Feb-15 17:42:59

In the middle of IM care at the moment. Thank. Fucking. God. I adore these women. They really listen to what I'm saying and they even hear the things I'm not saying.
If they reach as far as you then I can't recommend the Oxfordshire Midwifery Practice highly enough

Shedding Tue 10-Feb-15 17:49:03

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Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 17:51:09

Thanks another that's nice to hear smile are they ultra pro natural birth (because that's what I want)

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 17:53:58

Oh that sounds amazing shedding but I think I'm too far south hmm

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 17:54:31

I got exactly the birth I wanted, I was high risk too, but they made the birth I wanted a reality in a very safe, and carefully monitored way. Their care was second to none and I'd never go back to the nhs for maternity care again. The one-to-one midwives sound great, I'd have considered that if that operated in my area but sadly not.

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 17:55:05

Try this site to find an IM in your area

WiIdfire Tue 10-Feb-15 18:01:33

Just be careful because many independent midwives are not insured. This means that if there are problems, you would not have the option of monetary compensation unless they are personally very rich, which you would have using an NHS midwife.

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 18:21:32

Says on IMuk they all have mandatory indemnity insurance

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 18:29:01

They are insured. The chair of imuk was my midwife! I had a lot of conversations with her and her colleague about it. There's a lot of mis information about IMs; I had one NHS midwife tell me that they were illegal and I couldn't receive their care!

Beesandbutterflies Tue 10-Feb-15 18:32:53

shock At illegal! FFS

Pandasandmonkeys Tue 10-Feb-15 18:58:52

I was shock too!!

WiIdfire Tue 10-Feb-15 21:02:00

Well I take it back then, if they are now able to get insurance. It used to be a problem, but perhaps not any more. They're definitely not illegal though!!

anothergenericname Tue 10-Feb-15 21:05:43

Yeah, they're all insured. I think Wildfire is dealing with out of date information.

I think all IMs are big supporters of natural, normal birth, but when it comes right down to it they just want to support their client (note: client, not 'patient') to get the birth that they want and to achieve whatever is important to them. They are incredibly well informed though and as a general rule do have more homebirths than hospital births, because they are experts in 'normal' birth.

Please do ask me any questions, here or via PM, if you want to know more.

anothergenericname Tue 10-Feb-15 21:08:04

re: insurance - neighbourhood midwives can't get insurance for HBACs, other IMs can. Just FYI if you've had a CSec and wanted to have a VBAC

AHatAHatMyKingdomForAHat Tue 10-Feb-15 21:08:32

I had 3 DC, all at home with IM. Best money I ever spent. Highly recommended if you can afford it.

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