Hi,
My wife is pregnant with her first. She can be a bit of a worrier and she does not like the idea of putting together a birthing plan. Instead she is just focused on healthy mum/healthy baby and making decisions based on medical advice etc. She knows that she is not the most flexible person once she has researched and made a plan, and this is her way of controlling her anxiety and staying flexible.
I don't suffer from such anxiety, and I have agreed with her that I will take the burden off of her further by researching all the different aspects of the labour. Hopefully I will get a good grasp of the implications of the decisions that we may need to take so as to make better decisions faster. This will also help her more confidence in our decisions and make her worry less, as I will have a better grasp of the situation and will be able to reassure her having done my research.
I have done a bit of research already, but I don't know what I don't know so would like your help compiling a comprehensive list of research topics.
So far I have:
- how to measure dilation levels, and what to do at different stages of labour e.g. when to go to hospital.
- Natural methods of pain control for when we are at home and at hospital
- Advantages and disadvantages of different drugs
- Different things that we can do at the start of labour to prepare for the birth, e.g. keeping energy / fluids up, things that may ease the risk of Perineal tears.
- Methods to help the baby engage in the correct position
- Techniques to help control the speed of labour
- Different positions for delivery
- Best ways to support my wife during labour
- When to make the call to have a caesarean, risks etc.
- Risks with baby being delivered in different positions
- Risks from forceps
- Medical management of placenta delivery
- Different emotions, pains, aches etc likely to be experienced throughout the labour, both those that are normal and abnormal.
- Watch as many birthing videos as possible so that I know what to expect and can support her properly.
Now I am sure that I have missed so much. So please feel free to point out any other topics that I should prepare for.
Thanks so much, I really want to do my best in supporting my wife so it is important to me that I do not miss anything.
Jon