DS1 was born at home in birthpool. WHole experience was great and I'm hoping for DC2 to be born in exactly the same way, if all goes well. OF course second time round there's the complication of what to do with the little spectator. I'm fine with the idea of him witnessing the birth (I think it could be nice, as long as he's happy and not worried about Mummy Shouting) but I know that if he's trying to get my attention while I'm in labour it will push me out of my "zone" and make things hard. I'm confident DH can keep him distracted for all the early bit but when it comes to The Big Push I really needed DH's full attention and support (physical as well as emotional) last time, which would mean he's not able to actively keep an eye on DS and make sure he's not freaking out / drinking the birthpool water / etc.
I could call my mum when labour starts and get her to come up and be the on-site baby sitter for DS1 but to be honest our relationship is not brilliant and in an ideal world I wouldn't want her (or anyone else) around. I feel it's a very private experience that I just don't want lots of spectators for. Asking her to come up and look after DS but not enter the room where I'm labouring would be torture for her. As would asking her to leave as soon as the baby is born (which is ideally what I would like, so we can have private time as our nucelar family before introducing baby to others).
I'm just wondering if other people have had similar issues and how they dealt with them. It seems like getting my mum up is the most sensible option but if other people have managed with toddlers in the room and no babysitter I would be interested to hear how it went.
My gut feeling is that we would manage fine just us with DS1 (and midwives of course!) until and unless both he and I urgently want DH's attention at the same time!
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3 year old at home during home birth?
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atticusfinchatemybaby · 27/11/2014 12:02
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