My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

Get updates on how your baby develops, your body changes, and what you can expect during each week of your pregnancy by signing up to the Mumsnet Pregnancy Newsletters.

Childbirth

Anyone else really sad to lose their bump?

15 replies

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/03/2014 16:10

This will be dcs and definitely the last. Its been a long and very traumatic 9 months, but im being induced tomorrow and although I'm desperate to be rid of spd and GD im really going to miss my bump. knowing that DD is safe and sound in there, feeling her kicking and squirming and being a proper pain moving about at scans and consultant appointments.
Don't get me wrong, I cant wait to meet her, but its really sad to think that I'll never share my body with a tiny person again. Sad

OP posts:
Report
SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/03/2014 16:10

sorry, sad hormonal wibble... Confused

OP posts:
Report
RobinSparkles · 05/03/2014 16:16

I felt the same. Sooo uncomfortable at the end of pregnancy and wanting to be back to my normal self but at the same time not wanting the pregnancy to end.

I always felt so special having a baby inside me and pregnancy is the only time I felt good about my body, since i was about 13. I missed my bump, especially as what has replaced it is considerably wobblier than it was before Wink 3 years on.

Report
RobinSparkles · 05/03/2014 16:18

Congratulations btw! Thanks You are going to have a beautiful, squishy newborn DD! And I am Envy as I'll never have a newborn again.

Report
balenciaga · 05/03/2014 16:25

Lol I can't wait to lose my bump! And not be pg anymore. The joys of sleeping on my front, not being kicked from the inside all the time, omg bring it on

This is my 3rd and last baby btw

Report
SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/03/2014 16:33

I cant wait for my squishy newborn either, and I clearly remember post baby belly hideousness, its just nice to know she's safe and sound in there too and I love feeling her wriggle about. next time I feel that, it'll just be trapped wind! Confused Grin

OP posts:
Report
juule · 05/03/2014 16:51

I always had mixed feelings. Sad it was the end of the pregnancy, excited about the birth and about meeting my baby. I came across this on the internet when I was overdue with my last and feeling particularly nostalgic about my bump Smile

"The day is almost here. The day I will say goodbye to having you all to myself and the rest of the world will say hello. I want to meet you, to see your tiny face and toes and nose. But sometimes I wish I could keep you to myself forever. There is nothing like the miracle of bringing you into this world. Every day of this pregnancy has been filled with triumphs and fear, an emotional and physical roller coaster that at this moment I am sad to see coming to an end. I can remember the anticipation of the arrival of your older brother. Oh how I could not wait for that pregnancy to end. The day after the delivery, I looked into the mirror and I was hit by an unexpected, overwhelming sadness.
“My” baby was now “Everyones” baby.
You become used to the two of you as one, it is hard to adjust to being on your own again. I felt lonely. That experience has made me cherish every moment of this pregnancy with you. I wish time could stand still for just a little while so I can engrave this feeling and the beauty of you in my body forever on my mind. I know in a couple of days, I will wake up thinking “did I feel the baby kick?” and then I will remember that you are no longer there inside me.
Don’t mistake me, I can’t wait to see you, hold you, learn your unique personality, but I am torn with these emotions. We will always share a special bond that only we experienced. The details will fade over time but I will never forget the joy of carrying you."

Report
SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/03/2014 17:14

Oh, that made me cry! Sad

OP posts:
Report
juule · 05/03/2014 17:30

Sorry Sad

Report
SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 05/03/2014 17:40

Thats ok. I was blubbering anyway. Smile
bloody hormones.

OP posts:
Report
alteredimages · 05/03/2014 19:57

juule that is lovely. I am really glad to be rid of the bump, but just today struggling now my two month old isn't a squishy newborn any more and knowing I won't have another.

saggy I had my DS nine weeks ago now so it might take time, but I am sure you will be too busy enjoying your DD to dwell too much. Smile

Report
Writerwannabe83 · 06/03/2014 09:34

I'm absolutely dreading having to share baby when he arrives. I love the fact that it's just me and him whilst he's inside me, I feel like he's all mine and the thought of him being out in the world and other people holding him just makes me feel so sad. I just know I'm going to hate it - to the fact that I'm genuinely worrying how I'm going to react when I see other people picking him up and cuddling him. I'm scared I'm going to scream at them to give me my baby back!!! I spoke to my midwife yesterday about it and she reassured me it's totally normal to feel like this but I'm still anxious.....

Report
Loopylouu · 06/03/2014 10:22

I'm he opposite, I can't wait for it to be over in 3 weeks.

I hate being pregnant, I hate the discomfort and the worry. I was the same with ds. I was so relived when he was born so I could see him and that he was ok etc.

Oh and writer I am an utter cow in that respect, no one holds my babies, I don't care who they are! (apart from their father!).

Report
emmac3616 · 06/03/2014 11:41

hell no!!! i had my DS 10.5 weeks ago and am over joyed at getting my body back. i love him so so much but i found pregnancy and its impact on my body (not to mention childbirth!) REALLY hard. I am scared about doing it all again - hoping its just too early ;-)

Report
SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 06/03/2014 11:53

I suppose the only plus point of losing the bump is that I weigh less than I did when I got pg. I'm dying to see what I look like afterwards!

OP posts:
Report
RobinSparkles · 06/03/2014 16:02

Oh and writer I am an utter cow in that respect, no one holds my babies, I don't care who they are! (apart from their father!).

Thank God, I thought I was the only one. I mean I let people hold my babies but I didn't let anyone feed DD2 and I was given some Hmm faces and made to feel a right weirdo bitch! Both mine were bottle fed and when DD1 was born people expected to be able to give her her bottle. I let them and it upset me but I was too nice to say anything. When DD2 arrived I vowed that only I would feed her.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.