I can confirm I most definitely WILL care what I am wearing when in the midst of labour. I have seen this asked on another site and the majority of the women were telling poster to go naked and they wouldn't care that it was all "hanging out". I have 2 children (both natural births) and am extremely prudish to the point where I was "shy" about opening my legs to push, never mind to have the examinations they give you!! I would prefer to keep covered as much as possible. Anyone feel the same as me and have any ideas? Thanks in advance
I bought a tankini top and a pair of bikini bottoms that tied at the sides so easy to remove. I thought that a tshirt or similar would be horrible when wet. I also found a towelling dressing gown for when I got out.
However, despite being absolutely certain that I wouldn't want to get naked, when the time came, I just jumped in au naturel because I couldn't have cared less who saw what
I'd go for a tankini. You can just wear the top when things get going but it won't make you cold if your shoulders come out f the water. I don't think ppl can see clearly underwater so I can imagine a wb being good from that point of view. Disclaimer: I haven't had a water birth yet so no personal experience but considering it this time (if DH can cope with the risk of splashes for home birth).
I went naked last time and really didn't care - I went into another state of mind in labour and despite being a very reserved and self conscious person, I just went with my instincts. I didn't know I was having a water birth in advance though, a pool just happened to be free. This time I'm planning a water birth and might get a tankini top because it feels weird to plan to be naked! Bit reluctant to buy a maternity tankini for single use though!
I hope to have a water birth and will prob just wear whatever i have on top which is more than likely a vest top. I too am very self conscious and worry even tho the mw's and nurses have seen it all before! Cant imagine myself being naked so thats my plan but who knows what will happen.
I've a Tankini in my hospital bag but I reckon it might bunch up over my bump and be really annoying so now planning to go for non wired cross over crop top style bra, for coverage of boobs and easy feeding access ( think official name is a maternity sleeping bra!)
Thank you ladies. It might seem like I'm being fussy but just before pushing time with my 2nd baby when I was leaning over the bed I was constantly on at my partner to make sure my bum wasn't hanging out!! I know the midwifes have seen it all before but I just can't help being prudish Thanks for the tips, really has helped.
I wore a normal bikini top (I have no boobs and had not much more in labour!) and no bottoms... It was fine. I LOVED the pool (having said it was hippy dippy cr*p pre-labour I am a total convert!!)! I only took my bottoms off once in the pool I think... now I think about it!
I cared what I wore when I had a water birth so know how you feel OP . I bought a cheap bikini top and a knee length nightie from Tesco. I wore normal knickers until I was ready to push. I was completely covered up the whole time so it was one less thing to think about for me. Good luck OP
I think the water helps you feel more covered up though? Plus it is usually soft lighting etc. For DD1's waterbirth I brought a tankini but actually by the time they finally said I was dilated enough to be allowed in the pool I was in so much pain I stripped off and practically leapt in
DD2 was an induction on a normal labour ward and I stayed fully clothed in a long nightie. I would have felt v uncomfortable naked in that situation, but I think a water birth is very different. Good luck!
Sorry, pelvic exam. With dd2 I had a homebirth and was only examined once when she was trying to decide whether to stay or go and then they left me to it.
With dd3 I was induced and they had all of these rules about how long often they would do the internals and it was stupid- they wouldn't listen to me that I was ready to get in the pool, wouldn't examine me when I asked because it was too soon, wouldn't not examine me when it was too painful (err because i was in transition like I said!). If I'd had on my notes to refuse PE it would have spared me all that.
I've just made it sound like it was awful! It was actually brilliant and I loved my midwife, but it would have been even better without all that.
Anyway, the point of all that... If being examined makes you uncomfortable, you can ask them not to. You could at least discuss it with your midwife, I'm not a professional!