Im 39+4 with my third. For various reasons Ive had epidurals for my 2 previous labours, and only 'felt' the pains up to 7/8cms. Im booked for a homebirth (hopefully this will happen this time!) and have been feeling twinges since Friday, getting slightly more noticeable so I may be having the baby soon.
It only recently dawned on me that I don't know how it is to go from 7/8cms and through to the transition stage and now Im pretty (ok very) scared about it. Ive read (and people keep saying!) that this is when a lot of women really struggle, Im worried it might last ages and I'll feel out of control/like I cant cope.
I had a midwife appt today, one I hadn't met before and tried explaining my concerns to her, tbh it was hard to get a word in and she said Id be 'fine' and that I 'could always go in for another epidural if I couldn't cope'. Fair enough I guess but my 1st labour and birth was long and traumatic and tool me months to get over. I think its that loss of control feeling that has got to me, I felt for months Id failed.
With regards the first birth, what helped me decide to ttc my daughter was the fact that Id managed to get as far as I did just by breathing, tens machine early on (which I soon removed as hated the feeling) and a bit of gas and air. It was all taken out of my hands once Id stopped progressing and was taken into hospital. I remember being at home labouring, the pains were strong but I was doing okay. Dh reminds me that the midwife turned to him and said "is she always this in control?" and Dh said "actually she suffers quite terribly with anxiety!" which is true - I always have done. But her saying that and dh telling me reminds me that I can be strong and in control when I need to, but this doesn't seem to be enough at the moment
I considered a tens this time, but decided not to bother as really didn't like how it felt before, but now I worry Im slowly convincing myself that I wont be able to manage without all these props, but up until recently I truly believed Id be able to manage. This is my last baby, I cant go through this again, Im trying to enjoy it for that reason but Ive been in tears a few times before bed incase this is the night it all kicks off and goes 'wrong' again. I just don't know if Im strong enough anymore, I don't feel it.
Sorry for rambling
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Can you please help me stop worrying about transition?
GuyMartinsSideburns · 19/02/2014 20:24
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