NC - Looking for some advice...
I had a good birth, big baby, lovely pool birth-you get the picture. My beautiful baby is now 4 months old and I'm keen to get back to sex with my husband. He is not pressuring me in any way to dtd, and hasn't even mentioned it until I have. Despite trying many times and succeeding once, I feel like there's a mental block when I go to have sex.
I think the problem relates to my experience post birth... I probably naively never realised of the after bit of birth where you are examined and stitched up... I ended up with a second degree tear and was lying in complete agony with a mw attempting the stitching. I was unable to lie in the position they wanted and effectively sobbed through the procedure on gas/air whilst by husband held my daughter at the other side of the room... (He turned his back to me to give me privacy) I felt utterly violated by the procedure which ended when mw called in her supervisor and without warning put her finger up my bum
I accept people have far worse experiences than me but I don't seem to be able to get past it. I want to get on with our normal sex life but I do feel I was violated somehow. I'm such a private person and struggling....
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Rhinointhespring · 25/01/2014 22:31
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