homebirth bargaining advice needed.(27 Posts)
I need a little advice ladies.
I've recently moved to a new place and registered with the local midwives, I've just come from my first appointment with my new MW at 27 weeks.
I'd like a home birth for various reasons (local hospital is not a place I want to be, intervention statistics linked to home V hospital births etc). Whilst MW didn't say "you can't have one", she did give me a schpiel about "already having several home births booked the month I'm due" and me "requesting a home birth quite close to my due date", she also showed me pics of the local hospital birth unit and talked at length about the labour and birth facilities. I don't want to give the impression that she was obstructive, and I don't want to go in "all guns blazing" demanding my homebirth if my request at such a late stage in pregnancy is unreasonable.
Can I, indeed, should I push harder for a homebirth? My new home area has some pretty good statistics for homebirthing, so I'm not sure if I'm being fed a line or not.
I could, I think, birth relatively happily in a hospital if I got into a MW led unit rather than a labour ward, and if I was allowed the freedom to do it my way, to my timescale, without being chivvied or prevailed upon or (insert horror story). My fear is that if I begin labour at an inconvenient time I may be shipped to another hospital, denied access to a MWled unit, lose control of my birth and end up in a pretty dire state.
Advise me wise vipers, I need your views (research links and stats gladly accepted too).
Oh, this is my first pregnancy, and proposed hospital would be Edinburgh Royal (with punting out to St John's if very busy)
I think you should keep your options open. Why do you think that a hospital is such a terrible place to have a baby?
I had DD in hospital and was so well looked after that I didn't want to come home. By all means push for a home birth, but try and look at hospital as an alternative option rather than a last resort otherwise, if things don't go to plan, you will feel that you have failed somehow.
I live not too far from you and at a similar stage and we have just started discussing where I will give birth in more detail other than the general "my preference is x" that i said at booking in. My midwife says better to plan for a home birth and change to hospital delivery at a later date than the other way round.
I know a few women in Edinburgh who have had home births in different parts of the city and have felt slight push back from the midwife when first suggested it (I honestly think this has more to do with staffing rates) however, they went on to have home births and excellent care and birthing experiences.
As an aside, the new birthing centre at ERI does look fabulous.
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