Are there risks if I go home really quickly after the birth?(38 Posts)
Assuming everything is straightforward and I have the energy to, what risks would there be to be and the baby if I left say a couple of hours after the birth?
Last time DH was sent home at 5am after I had some fun poking, prodding and sewing for 5h, but I hope that won't take so long this time and that is go with him instead of lying awake on a ward....
My worry would be that I might have problems eg haemorrhage or baby have a problem eg I know someone who's baby had heart issues.
When do these type of problems appear? Is it risky to go home super-quick?
Thanks for the stories. Obviously if there was a particular reason / risk I'd gladly stay in, I just wondered about general ones but if home birth MWs happily leave you after about 2h I guess that's not an issue.
Hopefully will be making use of the info very soon!
Very jealous of all the early departures! I'm strep B positive so have been told to expect to be in for supervision for 48 hours.
Think the minimum you have to stay is six hours after the birth.
With DD, I arrived at hospital at 4.13pm, had her at 4.53pm and left hospital just before midnight.
I had second DS at 9 am and home by midday - no intervention required apart from stitches. If all straight forward where we are, and not your first, you are positively encouraged to go quickly. Midwife comes next morning to do all checks. Good luck!
I think that most MLU or birthing centres have a six hour discharge anyway.
I gave birth at 4pm, left the MLU at 7.15 ish, home an hour later.
we were both fine, but....I do think that I should have stayed a wee bit longer, because I hadn't BF while in the MLU and baby ended up being a little underweight and going back into hospital a few days later. He was fine though in the end, but it just meant he didn't get a proper breastfeed until the next day when the midwife visited.
I gave birth at 0515 and was asked to stay in over night. I anticipated being discharged after breakfast but we were still waiting for paperwork hours later, I stupidly turned down lunch thinking we were leaving and then longed for the sponge cake and custard I had ordered! In hindsight I should have asked to leave the same day and would next time.
I went home 4 hours after dd2 was born and wanted to do the same with dd3 but as I was getting dressed the midwife came and said the amount of blood I'd lost was classed as a pph and so they wanted me to stay in overnight. It was then 5 am and I said no way would I stay till the next day but I would stay a few hours and see how things went. I went home at 3pm and tbh was glad I'd stayed as the lochia was v heavy for a few hours and
I dh would have been scared I was actively bleeding. A bit of reassurance from the midwives plus rubbing up a contraction or two was very helpful.
I was told I could go as soon as epidural wore off and I could successfully walk, which was about 6 hours after birth. I expect without epudural I could have gone straight away. They were very relaxed about it.
I didn't end up going home until 12 hours after birth because DH fell asleep and slept through his alarm and several increasingly annoyed phonecalls from me but that's not the hospital's fault. Bloody men!
Well, paramedics turned up at 7.29, DS2 arrived 7.30, midwife arrived 7.40. iirc, all gone by 9am. And I suspect that if there had been a more important call, the paramedics would have up and left - it was more drinking tea and chatting, checking we were all OK than medical intervention - didn't need all of them there!
Midwife popped back that afternoon with the paperwork.
fwiw, DH, DS1 were here all the way through labour. My Mum turned up just before the paramedics. DS1 not bothered by me being in labour!
I went home 6 hours or so after having DD. I was told I had to stay overnight for paperwork but I just refused. Mind you, I did have to sign some pretty scary forms saying I was discharging myself and that it was my fault if anything went wrong. It had been a normal birth though and baby was fine. We are in London so close to hospitals/ ambulance service. I didn't have any worries about it and didn't regret it at all. I just knew we would both be happier and sleep better at home.
I had to take DD to the GP the next morning for a full check.
Isn't it normal/usual to be sent home within an hour or two after a normal delivery (especially with 2nd or more birth)?
They do this at our hospital as matter of fact. They rarely have any beds on the wards anyway (princess Anne's - Southampton)!
I was almost sent home 24h after a c-section here too.
They let me go home 2 hours after DS2 was born so I think you'll be fine, and we live an hour and a half from the hospital. Mw came round to see us next morning.
If you have a DH on hand then surely he can take dd somewhere? Unless it's the middle of the night obvs
I didn't have anyone apart from my parents so it was a bit more tricky. I gave birth on my own which was fine tbh but the waiting around after was the worst bit.
And I have got the emergency HB plan at the back of my mind although DH is in denial ;)
My mum isn't super mobile so staying upstairs / out wouldn't work.
And no idea if this will be a quick one as seemed to be in labour yesterday then everything's stopped!
They cant force you stay for paperwork but they are doing it for a reason! The paperwork they give you communicates important information to the the midwives who will visit you at home, and also to the person doing the paediatric check on your baby.
I'm planning hb so we're only going to call round the cavalry to look after DS if hosp transfer is threatened, I realise with your mum being hours away, you'd have to call her to come at the very latest when it kicks off and you won't be able to go in until she's arrived. You could find you're labouring at home for quite a while and if I was in your shoes I'd have a shadow home birth plan in case it was quick!
I think I read in Ina May's book that they recorded (objectively) less haemorrhaging and similar small complications in like for like non-hospital vs hospital births (e.g. a vaginal delivery in a pool at home, vaginal delivery in pool in MLU), something about the comfort and safe feeling of your own environment being good for the oxytocin/adrenalin levels, helping your body to control bleeding etc.
My ILs took DC1 to the park while DC2 was being born at home. Just managed to get DCs 1&2 into bed and asleep before calling midwife who delivered DC3 around 9.00pm and left us tucked up with tea and toast an hour or so later.
Is it not possible for DM to make plans for entertaining your elder child while you have a home birth? The second one is often quicker too.
Ds had to stay in for 3 days after birth, so I had to too. He was signed off as fit to leave at 9am on the last day but it took until 5pm for various bits of new-parent paperwork to be done, mostly getting different people to come lecture me and DP about stuff. I said next time I would be leaving as soon as the baby was fit to leave.
Second time, baby fine, but I was in a state after rough pregnancy, so taken to pn ward just before midnight. Felt better in the morning, insisted on getting catheters etc out ASAP, and nurses were great at chasing docs to establish if it would be sensible for me to go home and by lunchtime had a big bag of meds and instructions and said I was welcome to go home if I agreed to them and a checkup at home two days later. This included self-administered injections which I thought unnecessary so they called the doc who prescribed them and he said he recommended them so I could go then, or he would come debate after he got out of theatre (just heading there), but that might take a few hours.
I figured I'd go along with the jabs (anti-DVT) and go home. Obviously I wasn't sectioned so could have just walked out, but wanted to ensure I was aware of what risks the medics were concerned about. Also everyone I spoke to that day started with "I know you want to go home ASAP", which helped.
So if there are risks in your case, they should make you aware and explain why you aren't a routine case if you aren't.
They seem a lot less bothered about paperwork the second time, and are aware there's a first child you want to get back to. We did get ds to stay another night at his grandparents, so had that first night at home with just dd.
That was the reason I went in actually - my folks came here to look after the children, who had just gone to sleep - it started at about 9ish. I didn't want to wake them by sending them off somewhere else so I went instead.
Part of the reason I didn't get out sooner was that I couldn't ring my dad to come and get us - and they let me use the ward phone to ring out once, but wouldn't tell me what time they could come and pick us up - so my parents were waiting to find out, I was waiting to find out, it was awful. Like being stuck in limbo between there and the real world.
Don't underestimate how much of a hold a hospital will have on you once you are in there iyswim. It's really bloody hard to get out especially if you're on your own, with no mobile and no backup and no car seat!!! Or car, come to that...I went in in an ambulance.
I'm not in the UK and had my babies at private midwife-run centres, but the first time I was out after 7 hours (including a general anaesthetic for retained placenta - had to stay 4 hours after the anaesthetic then we buggered off in the middle of the night) Second time all went well and we left after 2.5 hours. It was so great being home with the baby, cuddling up in my own bed in a quiet room. Here in Germany the minimum requirement to stay is 2 hours post birth, after that you're legally free to go as long as there are no health complications. Is there a legal minimum time in the UK?
Mum is staying locally but lives hours away, so will be at home to look after DD.
It was really just the risks I was trying to work out but doesn't sound like anyone was 'detained' due to keeping an eye for potential problems.
And I hope I'd have the guts to just pick up my baby and walk out, even though I think they electronically tag the babies at the MLU at our hospital!
Can't you ask your mum to entertain DD upstairs? I did for my two home births. She didn't mind.
Join the discussion
Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.Register now
Already registered with Mumsnet? Log in to leave your comment or alternatively, sign in with Facebook or Google.
Please login first.