Hi all
Me and my husband are currently thinking of starting the family in the next year, and being the control freak I am, I have been researching all about pregnancy, childbirth etc.
I have heard enough horror stories from friends of terrible tears, incontinence, injuries to babies etc to make me rather terrified of the perspective of the childbirth.. Also, I have had loads of problems with sex for years due to constant water infections following intercourse, and the idea of damaging this even further, being incontineny and having no sex life at all for months does sound quite frightening tbh.
After reading through NICE guidelines, NHS statistics and other people's experiences here, I do get an impression that ELCS is safer option for both mother and the child, and gives you some form of control over your body. But by the sound of it, it is a tough battle with NHS to get an ELCS approved with no apparent medical reasons.
At the moment I am thinking the best option for me would be hypnobirthing course and hiring a doula for the actual birth, who would help me concentrate on the techniques I learned. This , I hope, would reduce the chance of medical intervention and losing control over my body and what is done to it, which I think I am most terrified of..
My question is, can I refuse any sort of intervention like forceps or ventouse, by stating clearly that in case there is any needed I prefer the doctors to proceeds straight with the CS? I know a lady who had horrendous labour, hours of pushing before she was taken to theatre and prepared for the CS, but doctors decided to try forceps first, which resulted in feceal incontinence for months..
Also, if I am overdue, can I refuse induction, both pessary and ocitocin drip and ask for the CS instead?
Many thanks for your comments and sharing experience - they are much appreciated!!
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143b · 16/05/2013 11:39
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