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Husband (and the rest of the world) not very supportive of homebirth, what would you do?

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mssunshine Mon 11-Feb-13 14:29:08

Hello ladies,
That's it really, first baby due in 5 weeks and I'm planning a homebirth but hubby is a bit scared and although the ultimate decision is mine (unless he wants to bloody give birth!) I really don't want him to be scared and uncomfortable with the idea. We went to a homebirth session last week also my midwife will come to my house this Friday to talk to both of us but he is still uncertain about it.
The thing is i cant really blame him, where I come from homebirths are practically non existent, I've never met or heard of anyone who's had one in the past 20 years or so. Nearly everyone has private caesarians mostly because the public health system is not very good they don't want to take a chance.
I haven't even told my parents yet, but they will be ok, in fact I haven't told many people because everyone thinks I'm mad! I know there's a big chance of hospital transfer as this is my first but it would be really nice to hear about your experiences and how you coped with negative comments and stories.


mssunshine Sat 16-Feb-13 12:37:07

Thank you all for your messages and support smile we had a long talk with my midwife and DH seems much more relaxed, now he's starting to get excited about the pool/timing contractions/calling the midwife.

Shall report back in a month to let you know how it went!

BraveLilBear Mon 18-Feb-13 14:58:38

Good luck mssunshine, really hope it goes well for you. Have been watching this thread closely as I have a similar battle with my OH who says that despite being 5mins away from hospital (less with blue light) it's too risky to have baby at home. That plus he's squeamish as hell. Temperature control he could handle, floating poo and/or blood in the water? Nope.

Hope you and DH get the birth you want!

mssunshine Mon 18-Feb-13 15:38:06

Thank you BraveLilBear, DH is slowly changing his mind smile there is hope, don't give up!
Hope it all goes well for you too and let us know how it goes,
all the best

chocosaurus Tue 19-Feb-13 08:19:43

wouldn't do it with first baby.
If normal this time then go for it in the future but personally I wouldn't risk it.

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