Sorry this is such a long post!
Last week I had an appointment with a senior midwife ahead of giving birth to DC2, who is due in April.
DC1 was born by emergency caesarean because of failure to progress and a dipping heartbeat. My appointment was designed to encourage me to try for a VBAC this time, and talk through how I felt about the first birth. I learned then that he was back-to-back and his head wasn't pushing quite properly on the cervix, hence slow progression.
Afterwards I wondered about some of the things she told me, obviously I would need to talk to her about it really but wondered if any of you could enlighten me too.
- Labour. My contractions started at 6pm Tuesday, and continued every 5 minutes until midnight on Wednesday when I had the section. They were ok for the first 3 hours but very painful from then on. It took me til 3pm on Wednesday to get to 4cm dilated.
THe midwife said that all that time up til 4cm was the latent stage - not counted as proper labour - and that I wouldn't experience that this time round because the body's done it once already. However - I have friends who've still laboured for days with their 2nd child. Is it really true that I won't experience the "latent" stage again?
- Epidural
By 3pm Weds my tens machine wasn't cutting it and I begged for an epidural, throwing out my original plan for a drug-free water birth! I could easily have had an epidural much earlier if they'd let me. The midwife told me the epidural was the reason for DC's heartbeat dropping off significantly, as epidurals often cause baby's heart rate to slow.
I'm sure this could be the case, but could it not also have been distress that he was pushing against the cervix and not getting very far? Or do I have to accept that the heart slowdown probably was the drugs?
- Distress
The other thing she said was that a sample taken from the cord after the birth showed normal oxygen levels, which means DC wasn't distressed after all (e.g. the main reason for em-c turned out to be invalid.) However DH remembers DC being given oxgyen straight away and I think we even have a photo of him with a mask on, so presumably that sample was taken after he was helped out rather than before... We were told at the time he was distressed, but I really don't remember anything much about the whole process cos I was so out of it after 2 nights of contractions and no sleep!
Whilst at the time I felt encouraged by the meeting, later I found myself doubting a few things and like she was wanting to put intervention in a bad light and direct me to a more natural birth.
I must admit I swing drastically between hoping for a planned c-section and wondering about things like hypnobirthing and as natural a labour as possible!
Any shared experiences would be great, or thoughts from people with medical knowledge :-)