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Please tell me happy first baby childbirth stories....(38 Posts)
I'm due in a few days and now bricking it having reads recent threads about tears, episiotomies, incontinence and whatnot.
Please will people with happy straightforward births tell their stories so I don't have a total meltdown...?
I my first baby at home. Not going to lie, it was long and tough (30 hours from waters breaking to baby - about 14 hours established labour) - but the midwives were fantastic, my boyfriend and friend were wonderful, I got to 6cm on TENS and then had G&A till 8cm and then just a lot of positions till 10cm (G&A stopped being helpful!)
Contractions were very painful but pushing was satisfying and quick. Baby born with no tearing at all on my own sofa. Placenta came out naturally about 45 minutes later. Breastfed immediately, for almost an hour. Shower, proper food, own bed with boyfriend and baby. Baby was wonderful, fed brilliantly, settled and relaxed (she still is a pretty easy baby). I was out walking again the next day and running within a month.
Also have a friend who delivered 2 days before me who had exactly the same story, except in hospital, and 10 hours shorter (cow!)
A lot of luck involved with labour and it's not helpful at all to play one-up-man-ship games, but remember normal deliveries are more common than not.
Lots of nice stories, thank you. A worrying amount of tearing though!
Waters broke late evening, went into hospital and got them confirmed. Went home, had a sleep, woken by contractions. Got my Tens machine on. Walked around a bit, hid under a blanket, all ok. Went to hospital, got sent home. Contractions ramped up, went back to hospital, got on the gas & air. Baby born 2 hours after arrival, not too much pushing. Stayed in overnight, walked home (15 mins away) the next day. It was really fine.
Mine went smoothly (if you ignore the PND!)
Waters broke at 2am, went back to bed. Woke again around 6am with contractions, which really ramped up by about 9am, arrived at birth centre about 11am (40 minute scary drive, using TENS machine on the way).
Got there, was only 2cm - got into the pool as I was in heaps of pain. Sucked on G&A for an hour or so. Got out. Wanted to get back in - lasted about 2 minutes before I demanded to get back out again. Onto the bed, lying on my side, one leg in the air. Had diamorphine injection about 3.30pm, baby born at 4pm! No tears or incontinence here, healthy but sleepy baby. Back home by 8pm.
Waters broke at home (explosion on the couch!) at 5pm, was 38 weeks.
Went to hospital at 7pm, confirmed water broke. Went back home, sat in bath, paced up & down, contractions started to come every 3 minutes.
Went back to hospital at midnight, after gas & air and shot of morphine DS was born at 3.30am. . No tears, no stitches, latched on straightaway. Was lovely experience (well. . . Sore at the time) but not as horrendous as I'd expected. 10 hours from start to finnish. Pregnant now with number 2. . . Hoping for same delivery!
I went into labour, had gas and air, it did hurt but I was out shopping the next day with no tears or anything. We didn't buy newborn as midwife said to expect a big baby and he wasn't so bought some baby gros that fitted.
1st baby, 3 hour established labour no drugs no g&a home birth in the water, no tearing :-) x
great thread and I cross posted my epidural thread for some reassurance. Bumping for any more nice stories, thanks ;)
My labour lasted 10 hours from start to finish but at the time I would have sworn it was only about 4 hours!
I got woken up by a contraction at 2.30am, went to hospital at about 7.30am and I was 5cm dilated. A little while later (turns out it was 4 hours later!) I was starting to push so they examined me and I was 10cm. DS was born at 12.29pm.
The pain was bearable and I didn't have any g&a until probably about 9.30am. The pushing stage was more painful (I did tell the midwives to get DS out any way they could so I didn't have to push anymore) and I had a second degree tear but neither were anything like I had imagined or what other people had told me it would be like!
If you insist OP!
I was induced with a pessary at 42 +5 at 9pm. A couple of hours later I had some cocodamol and put on my TENS machine. About an hour after that I wallowed in a bath for an hour or so having some tightenings. MW examined me about 2am. I was 9cms dilated. I went to delivery suite and DH was called. I had gas and air to help with what i learned were comtractions! DS1 arrived at 4.45am.
With Ds1, wearers broke and then nothing for 4 days so induced. Dilated to 10 cm then EMCS as DS distressed. Was still an amazing experience, midwives and Drs all fabulous, v supportive and calm.
DS2 v similar though naturally went into labour before EMCS. Again, brilliant staff made it an amazing birth. I've never ever felt disappointed with 2 CSs just delighted with my healthy boys!
Even if things don't go straight forward lay you can still have a fantastic birth experience!!
I had two easy births too. I have a low pain threshold (I have to take plasters off in the bath under water!!!) but I managed with gas and air. I did not have an epidural and did not need it.
I did have stitches, but no problems, I just followed advice and made sure I kept them as dry as possible.
Both mine were easy and I thought I had a low pain threshold, was v worried before first labour but now I'd happily go through childbirth again but not the 9mths of pregnancy.
Ds1 - waters broke on sun am, went to hospital to be checked, sent me home and told to come back when proper contractions, a few minor niggles the next day, about 5pm realised they were getting pretty regular, called dh home from work, went to hospital, ds1 arrived 1.5hrs after arriving at the hospital, gas & air only, minor 1st degree tear.
Ds2 - waters broke, went to hospital to be checked, sent home to wait, a few hours later niggly pains turned into full on rapid contractions, back to hospital, ds2 born immediately we got there (45mins labour in total), no time for gas & air or any pain relief, no tears at all - lovely experience (other than the worry I would have him in the car on the way )
Mine was perfect - I'd spent pretty much the whole pregnancy imagining what I wanted and pretty much got it. I had a home water birth.
2pm waters broke, mw came out to do a stretch and sweep to get things going so I could have a home birth within 24hrs. 3.30 contractions started. Swayed around the house for a few hours, swished around the pool for a few hours. Around 8pm mw's said I needed to start pushing as his heart rate was dipping a bit, ds1 born at 9pm all by myself with no drugs or g&a. Placenta arrived as I was thinking of getting out the pool. Had dinner in bed cuddling my lovely new baby.
I did have a small tear and refused stitches - after a totally natural birth I really didn't want them and that was my only regret because it would have healed better with stitches.
I was induced at 39 weeks, had been mildly contracting for 10 hours at that point. Slow progression until a sweep 12 hours later and then my waters went with a massive pop
Two hours later I was in active labour, it hurt but the gas and air was awesome. Was fully dilated in 9 more hours and pushed him out in another hour. Sounds long but it flew by
high as a kite on g&a
I had no stitches, no tears. they threatened me with an episiotomy and I pushed him out in 2 more contractions!
The second they handed him to me I forgot all about it and I'd do it again right now (DS is 18 days old). I had my Sunday dinner and was in the shower an hour later.
Not everyone has a bad experience, it was the best day of my life. Painful but so worth it. Good luck, I'm sure you'll do great
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sorry should have been www.tellmeagoodbirthstory.com
I had a really positive first birth experience and have since gone on to have 2 more.
First sign of labour was waters breaking at midnight. Phoned hospital who advised taking paracetamol and staying at home as long as I could - good advice. Laboured calmly in our living room using TENS and JuJu Sundin techniques from her brilliant book 'Birth Skills' then went to hospital at 7am. DD1 was born at 10.45am after 45 min second stage. It was hard work and it did hurt but the pain was manageable and goes away the instant your baby is in your arms. I coped with just TENS all 3 times, positive thinking, as someone else has said, is of huge benefit imho.
It feels amazing afterwards, I felt as high as a kite with the adrenalin of it all for the best part of 2 weeks, like I could take on the world and win. Giving birth is truly the most incredible feeling the power of it can feel overwhelming but you can do it. I feel quite sad that I'll never get to experience it again.
Very best wishes, also check out www.tellmeagoodbirthstory.org
First birth was lovely.
First contraction at 3.30am, DS was born at 10.50pm. All very relaxed and chilled, have no recollection of at least 4 hours as was in the pool half asleep! Did have 2nd degree tear but didn't feel a thing, even thought I'd got away with it for a bit!
I was told so many not so nice birth stories I wasn't looking forward to it at all, until my mum asked me why exactly I thought I couldn't do it when I had ''all the right parts'' for the job, for some reason this made me feel so much better!
I had a very straightforward and happy first birth. Waters went at lunch time. Niggles by dinner time. Went to MLU at midnight. In the pool by about 1am. Stayed there until baby was born at 7:30am. Had gas and air for the last couple of hours. I had a 2nd degree tear that needed stitching but I didn't feel anything at the time.
Good luck. I share my postitive birth story with pregnant friends that want to hear it. Too many people want to tell you the horror stories.
Mine was, apparently, a 'failure' - induced early due to pre-existing diabetes, 38 hours of labour, lots of monitoring, eventually exhausted DS was whipped out by EMCS.
You know what? It was AMAZING. It was very medicalised, very painful, and never got to the pushing stage. But I had gas and air (which I loved ), lovely MW's who dos their best to be unobtrusive, explain everything in depth before doing anything, and an awesome consultant who came in at 6am to do the EMCS herself! I also had lively low lighting, free use of the birth pool pre- IV insulin and in between monitoring, and a CD of my gave metal songs (DS was laboured with a whole load of Scandinavian metalcore!).
Best of all, I had DH by my side. We talked, cuddled, kissed and he held my hair and cleaned up when I vomited all over him (note - you're meant to put the G&A DOWN when not contracting...). It was the most beautiful time and we both cry when we reminisce.
I had a health DS. That was all that mattered to me!
I hope this helps in some way - even a technically 'difficult' birth can actually be amazing
I was induced with mine at 40+11, had 2 pessarys, waters broken and the drip. It was intense and I did have a few complications with the drip but it was nothing to worry about.
Everything started at 11.40 and my ds was born at 10.03pm. It was a painful but an amazing experience.
My ds was born with his hand by his face, I needed no stitches, no intervention. And I DIDN'T POO!
I went in open minded, very nervous but I really enjoyed my labour. I believe my labour was better than my sisters, she went naturally but I was dreading that.
I actually told my Dp I would do it again in a heartbeat the very next day.
I had a straightfoward birth with dd. Woke up at 1am wet, my waters had partly gone and was having mild contractions. Threw towel over wet patch as wanted dp to sleep as long as poss!! Phoned labour ward who said to ring back once contractions got to about 5 mins apart. At this point they were every 10-12mins. Laboured at home until 6.30am, watched some crappy tv whilst I bounced about on a bean bag! Rang back labour ward once contractions were getting closer together and more intense, was told to go in to be assessed. Woke dp and off we went. Was left for a couple of hours and then examined, wasn't very dliated at that point, think it was about 12-1am by then, midwife said she'd leave me to it with g&a for a little while and if there was no progress we'd have to go home. About half an hour later the contractions stopped hurting as much & started to feel pressure to push down!! Told dp who got the midwife and I was fully dilated. Eventually (after a lot of pushing!) dd was born at 15:42, no tears and didn't use the g&a for last couple of hours as it made me really thirsty and my mouth dry. Midwife left us alone for a little while then came back and ran me a lovely warm bath. It was lush!! I'm now 38wks+2 with ds and can't wait, it wasn't half as bad as I thought it was going to be and I'm very proud of myself!
Also, search for the thread about funny birth experiences - that helped. A lot!
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