Anyone else regret not VBAC-ing? Currently TTC for baby number 4 which will be another elcs as I really don't have the balls to try a VBA3C.
History...sorry, quite long...
DS1: Spontaneous labour, decreased foetal movement, meconium stained liquor when waters broke, continual foetal monitoring, call for crash caesarean when bradycardia detected for seven minutes. State lowered to emergency caesarean once in theatre as baby's heart rate had improved so able to have spinal block rather than general anaesthetic. Surgeon said afterwards that liquor was VERY thick with a lot of meconium, indicating that baby had been distressed for some time (we never found out why). Thankfully (I actually thank God) baby was totally fine with good apgar scores.
I was totally relieved both baby and I were alive and ok. Once home, I researched caesarean births a bit more and found that some people felt cheated/disappointed/a failure etc after emcs. I felt slightly traumatised but not cheated - just besotted with my new baby and VERY relieved.
DS2: Conceived him when DS1 was 12 months old. Straight away I decided that I was having an elcs and no one was going to change my mind. At scheduled consultant appointment I actually only saw a registrar who briefly outlined the pros of VBAC but I was having none of it and she didn't go on to provide further info to try to change my mind. I did not want to go through that trauma again.
Went on to have elcs at 39 wks. All fine with good recovery.
A few years later I discovered the joy of reading other people's birth stories online and I was hooked. I wished I'd discovered them before DS1 as I might have been better prepared for birth but the outcome would have likely been the same due to the foetal distress. But I definitely wish I'd read stuff like that before DS2 as I think I would have then tried VBAC.
DS3: During this pregnancy I did a lot more research into VBA2C and really wished I'd VBACed the last time round as results for VBA1C are far more favourable than VBA2C...I also read too many horror stories about scar rupture. Actually saw consultant at scheduled appointment this time who said I should have been given more information last time to make a more informed choice. Anyway, after a lot of hormone-charged dithering, decided on a third CS.
Even after the decision around that ELCS I didn't feel disappointed, just over the moon with a third healthy baby. Recovery that time was very tough.
Now planning to start TTC #4 and I just can't put the VBAC ghost to bed even though I know I would just never have the balls to go through with it.
Anyway, just wondered if anyone else had the same sad nagging thoughts in the background...?
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Anyone else regret NOT VBAC-ing?
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Melody3boys · 30/12/2012 20:51
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