I am already more grateful to my midwife than I can even describe. She won't actually deliver our baby but she is just so kind. She says that if I like her then I will be do impressed by the midwives at the hospital. What is the etiquette, a box of chocolates? Somehow that doesn't seem enough, but what would? Any insight would be much appreciated.
Whatever you buy her, I heartily recommend writing a card or letter saying why exactly she has been so fantastic. Chocolates and flowers are lovely, but cards can be kept forever and written compliments on her practice will go down a treat in her appraisals.
I'm not a MW but I received a bottle of champagne from a patient once, and was more excited by the card that came with it to put in my portfolio!
It's always lovely to know that someone has felt well cared for and that you have made a difference to them. I particularly treasure the crds I have received from women, sometimes with a photo of them or the baby.
I keep mine and live looking back on them and remembering them and their families.
I gave chocolates and a lengthy thank you card to the two great midwives who came to my home birth. I wrote details about how helpful they were and the things that did that were good, and I included a few photos of me and my baby.
I agree with a card and photo. We don't get many and I am a bit soppy and well up each time I do get something. Coffee, tea, chocolates biscuits are also welcomed as is a letter to the boss. Anything is encouraging to be honest. I received a letter from the gran of a woman recently, It was really busy and I apologised at the end of it that I had been in and out so much rather than in supporting her, they didn't seem to mind as much as I did and the letter saying that they really appreciated my care made my day!
I feel a bit that I never got around to sending a card to the lovely mw who delivered my dd although I did send an email to the head of midwifery to say how wonderful she was. Dd is 7 months now, do you think its too late to send a card and pictures now?
I don't at all think it is too late to send the card. The other thing you could do is print a copy of the email you sent to your mw's boss and enclose it in the card. If I was you I would definitely do it, and she of all people will understand why it has taken you a wee minute or two to get round to it.
I once got a letter several months after delivering an unexpectedly growth retarded baby. Although healthy, he was so skinny and strange looking (i'm afraid his parents did nickname him Gollum ). It was lovely to see him all chubby later.