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Sex after childbirth

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jenrose29 Tue 19-Jun-12 21:25:46

How long did you wait until first having sex after giving birth?

SuzySheepSmellsNice Tue 19-Jun-12 21:51:25

About a month I think... It was a very hushed affair but nice! I had a 9lb2 baby, but fortunately only had a few stitches and recovered quickly obviously. Don't rush into it though, you'll know when you're ready. Don't let anyone hurry you!

SarryB Tue 19-Jun-12 21:54:03

2 weeks, but I only had 2 'grazes', and we took it VERY slowly smile I did leak milk everywhere though!

BlackOutTheSun Tue 19-Jun-12 21:55:19

9 months, it was the choice of sex or sleep. Sleep always won

JambalayaCodfishPie Tue 19-Jun-12 21:57:01

3weeks. But I had a small baby and no grazes or tears. Would have happily done it earlier if the bleeding had stopped.

StrawberrytallCAKE Tue 19-Jun-12 21:57:16

a long time, maybe 4/5 months and then I still wasn't ready so another 4/5 months more recovery before we tried again.

nurseneedshelp Tue 19-Jun-12 21:58:20

4 weeks....

pumpkinsweetie Tue 19-Jun-12 21:58:20

A week, but then i only had grazes with my dcs.
I say that you should wait until you are absolutely ready whether that be a few days to 6months....
The first time after isn't that great but it is nice to have the intimacy back

Helenh90 Tue 19-Jun-12 21:59:05

About 3 and a half months with dd1 as I had quite a few stitches and couldn't sit comfortably for that long, let alone anything else.
With dd2 though, it was about 7 weeks. I only had a few grazes but I was too knackered and she didn't really sleep for long enough before that.

janie2 Tue 19-Jun-12 21:59:31

months! I'm with was way down the priority list!

tbh I had pretty nasty tears so it would have been a couple of months before I'd have managed anyway.

BellaOfTheBalls Tue 19-Jun-12 21:59:56

6 weeks with DS1, had episiotomy, stitches and a small tear.

2 weeks with DS2. Just bruising.

StrawberrytallCAKE Tue 19-Jun-12 22:04:02

fyi I only had a graze too...just couldn't deal with it so the trauma your body receives giving birth isn't always directly linked to when you feel like having sex again.

Springforward Tue 19-Jun-12 22:04:39

About 6 months I think. Given a choice between sex and sleep, we both tended to choose sleep....

jenrose29 Tue 19-Jun-12 22:10:23

Well baby is almost 3 weeks old now and bleeding has almost stopped. Only had a cut so thinking about trying to have sex but the midwife and friends said that it's dangerous before 6 weeks as the cervix hasn't closed properly and could become infected?

PamBeesly Tue 19-Jun-12 22:17:48

4 weeks, then another 4 after that, go slow only when you feel you are ready

notcitrus Tue 19-Jun-12 22:21:02

About 7-8 weeks after both births- couldn't be bothered to sort out contraception before 6 week check, then a week for pills to kick in, then getting round to trying it.

ForFoxsGlacierMints Tue 19-Jun-12 22:29:02

5 weeks . . . really because I thought the doc would ask me at my 6 week check. She did not.

Billy11 Tue 19-Jun-12 22:52:24

three virginity just grows back so it was painful for ages after that as well..
i had a an episiotomy and a few stiches
couldnt have let him touch me any sooner though stiches healed in a week or so

StrawberrytallCAKE Wed 20-Jun-12 08:40:25

Billy your virginity does what?

pumpkinsweetie Wed 20-Jun-12 09:27:06

Wish mine would grow back blush

ZhenThereWereTwo Wed 20-Jun-12 09:32:20

1st EMCS - 5 weeks

2nd EMCS - 8 weeks

StrawberrytallCAKE Wed 20-Jun-12 20:41:03

Oh Billy where are you? I need to know of this miracle medical condition where you can wipe out your sexual history and your hymen grows back...hmm

MrsMuddyPuddles Wed 20-Jun-12 20:44:19

About 4 weeks. It was too soon, and ribbed condoms were a total mistake!

PiggyMad Wed 20-Jun-12 21:30:42

I had dc1 ten weeks ago and had a 3rd degree tear and I'm still too scared to have a go - despite feeling ok down there.
I might just have to 'bite the bullet', so to speak, before the issue becomes psychological!

monkeyfacegrace Wed 20-Jun-12 21:38:42

4 days but ds was diddy. It was DH's idea, not mine grin

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