Hi,
This question is nearly 10 years old and I figured that maybe someone else has experienced the same?
Background - I am 35 weeks with DD3. First was a very traumatic instrumental birth due to foetal distress - baby stuck in pelvis. Failed venthouse, front to back episiotomy, successful forceps delivery. Just horrible. DD2 was a requested homebirth but ended up with induction, pushed for 2 hrs, baby stuck in pelvis, EMCS. The experience was beautiful compared to first. For 3rd delivery I am begging for an ELCS, hospital like the idea of VBAC. I do not.
Back to the point. During first labour I was given pethidine. Liked it but I stopped dilating at 4 . As pethidine wore off and foetal distress noted, the registrar said he would 'get me dilated so I could have this baby'. He inserted his hand into me and used a fist to dilate my cervix. I have never felt pain like it. And to be honest I felt bloody violated. When he withdrew his hand he advised 'You are now 9 cms. Would you like to push?'
I didn't want to push. No desire whatsoever. So they gave me a spinal, had me sign a consent form for whatever was necessary and pulled out my daughter.
I look back to that with horror. Cannot ever get my head around it. I assumed it was normal, but it isn't, is it?
I really need to discuss this with my consultant but I am concerned that I will go into meltdown. I want them to give me a section but don't know how to talk about this.
Anybody else been there?
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Manual dilation?
Beckamaw · 05/02/2012 20:43
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It won't be in your notes. DS was delivered by fundal pressure and I got my notes to try to work out wtf the SHO was doing winding me without warning and notes say SHO called, SHO arrived, baby's head out. When questioning head if midwifery was told it is not recognised obstetric practice and the pethedine must have affected my perception.
Interestingly I am on birth no.3 and told mw I am under a lot of pressure due to up and coming court case wrt ds and she automatically assumed it was with the hospital re ds' birth 
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It is not physically possible to dilate a cervix from 4 to 9 cm dilated however much you try. It is not right that you were in so much pain from a vaginal examination though. As a midwife if a woman does not consent to continuing an examination if it is really painful I will tell a dr to stop. It makes me mad that so many women have such negative experiences of examinations.
It is possible to slip a lip of cervix over a babys head at 9cm dilatation in some circumstances, not always a great idea but sometimes useful.
I hope you manage to get your elective section. It sounds like you would be a good candidate. 
cervixwithasmile you are right, I didn't mean it badly, it kind of chilled me as I typed it if you know what I mean. I definitely wasn't saying that I would approve of it or think that they should do it though. Sorry if it came accross that I was 
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