mine were quite horrendous! they are way more painful than episiotomy. ouch. it took the full six weeks before I felt back to normal but at about week 4 i got thoroughly sick of it all and started using tea tree oil on them - dabbed straight on, stung a bit and made my breath smell of tea tree which was quite freaky but it got them healed up much quicker. sympathies
I remember going to the GP about the grazes I got with DD. I think it must have been around week 4 as I thought they should be gone by then! Because my fanjo wasn't in complete in shreds he wasn't sympathetic and told me lots of women have it a lot worse and it'd be fine soon. They were, I think within the next week or so, but I still remember being pissed off he'd poo-pooed my pain.
Oh god yes, I remember the pain! The tears taht had to be stitched weren't a patch on the grazes pain-wise. Ouch ouch ouch ouch. I think it took around 6 weeks to not hurt and 12 weeks to be completely better.
go to your GP, I had one graze, no tears or stitches and 5 weeks later it was still stingin like buggery when I peed, despite lavender oil and water poured over my bits and drinking pints and pints of water to dilute it. Turns out the scar tissue had over healed, she whipped out some silver nitrate, couldn't sit properly for a good 24hours but then was all fine again...