The subject line sounds really arsey, but I wasn't sure how else to put it...
I am due to give birth to DC2 in a few weeks, DD1 is 18 months old, so still needs a lot of attention and stuff doing for her (nappies, supervision etc).
When she was born we had many friends over to visit, who were mostly very considerate and it was nice to see them and to show off DD...however in hindsight I should have been sleeping or resting more, and so this time we have decided (well, it was my idea) that we will only have family visiting for the first couple of weeks.
My mum and MIL will (wonderfully) be here most of the time - to cook, clean and entertain DD - and basically help me with the boring necessities of the household so I can bond with DC2 and give DD enough attention. DH's circumstances are such that he won't get any paternity leave.
An old friend of mine is reacting very badly to my stance on visitors and thinks because she is such an old friend the rules don't apply to her...she's said that I'm her 'priority' when I have the baby...but I don't necessarily want to be, and I know her very well and know that she isn't like this and wasn't very helpful when I had DD. I really need her to back off.
I know people are excited about meeting a new baby - and don't get me wrong, I am very excited too and will want to see friends and show off my new DC...but I get so irritated by people assuming they can come over just to see the baby whenever they want. I remember the extraordinary exhaustion that comes with a newborn, and would really like to get my act and my head together before I am expected to host visitors.
OK. Rant over. Anyone else been in a similar position? Got any stories to tell?
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How do you deal with pushy, unwanted visitors after the birth of your baby?
findmeintheflowerbed · 30/08/2011 11:39
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