I have a 34 week scan on Monday to check position of placenta if low this will all become academic.
However if the placenta has moved I think I will struggle to get an ELCS. As they have continuously told me I am the ideal candidate for a VBAC, having had a VB prior to my EMCS.
Anyway I was happy for this but over the last few weeks I have become terrified of a rupture to the point that I have literally told myself I will not come out of this alive. I can't sleep and because of this I can't function at all during the day I have a constant headache and feel sick pretty much from morning till night which is preventing me from eating properly which isn't ideal considering my previous history (eating disorder in teens).
My fear I know is irrational and ruptures are rare etc, but that does't take these feelings away and they are only heightened by the fact that my DS is only 10 months old and I haven't psychologically come to terms with what went wrong during my labour with him.
I can't cope anymore with this and I need to be strong for my 4 year old DD and my 10 month old DS.
Is there anything out there that I can print off as I haven't discussed my feelings with my DH and I don't really want to. I just want to say I want and ELCS and hand over information relating to why without my DH actually knowing the content. Don't get me wrong he is perfect and a good listener but I am not ready to open up to him about this and whilst I was awake I wasn't really with it during my sons labour and I know he saw, heard and was involved in the decisions in a big way and I don't want to make him relive that time if I am honest. DS is healthy and well and so am I and I would rather not know what really was going on and I know he probably doesn't want to go over it.
Plus how do I tell him my main concern is dying without really having any reason to think this might happen!
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nunnie · 11/08/2011 14:20
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