At the moment in 28+5.
Im having an uncomplicated (first) pregnancy, and I always see my (lovely wonderful) community midwife on a Friday so Im always X+5.
Anyway i have known since before i was pregnant that I intend to have a home birth. Now im pregnant and have researched it even further i know the decision is right for me.
Its what i want, what i have a right to have, and MY choice.
I also know that midwifes / NHS like to think its their choice, but the reality is its mine.
I have been talking about having a home-birth since my 9 week booking appt. My midwife has always maintained that they dont make the decision until my 36week apt (which i will have at 36+5)
(I have not yet bothered to have the "its MY choice" discussion cause i dont see the point... at 9 weeks anything could have happened and even now i could have a premature baby and have to go to hospital)
The midwife has always said they dont decide until 36 weeks as there is lots of paper work, and no point doing it, if there are last minute complications, which i understand.
However if my baby is breech (today she was head down but of course can move) I will STILL be wanting and insisting on a home birth. (Im sure that wont go down well!)
Also in the event that my BMI is slightly above the limit of 35 (I doubt it will be, im only a size 12) I will still be choosing a home birth.
Or if there are any other minor risk factors which matter to NHS (but not to me) I will still be choosing a home birth against their advice.
It strikes me that on the Friday, less than 48 hours before i become term on the Sunday, i could have to start my battle for my right to a homebirth. (and this doesnt give me much time to fight my corner if necessary)
Also when Im so close, i want it to be all sorted and not wondering at 36+4 if i will be allowed to give birth at home!
Does anyone have any ideas?
Also if baby is breech, and NHS really have a strop id happily go for an IM, but it doesnt give me much time to find one, if i only call them, when i could go into labour at any moment, and they will have bookings / plans etc.
Id rather use the NHS (and have met 2 lovely community midwives out of the 5 that might attend already) though, and on the positive side, because i live so far from the hospital home births are very much supported in this area, much more so than in many other areas.
I have already been admitted to my hospital (I have no choice regards to hospitals, there are no others close enough) with HG, and (unless in an ambulence for an emergancy) i do not plan to go their willingly, at all, ever. It was awful (another thread lol)
Of course if there are complications during the birth i'll have no choice, but to go in, which is fine, and if baby is transverse (or if placenta was in wrong place; its not) I accept that a homebirth is positively stupid, and id be admitted for a CS, but otherwise i intend to at least try to give birth at home, as is my right.
Has anyone else had the decision made SO late in pregnancy?
I am normally super organised with everything (i have my birth pool, towels, waterproof sheets etc all ready ) and I find it stressful that its my decision and im not allowed to make it until just a matter of hours before becoming "term".
Also i know the midwives here like to deliver home birth stuff so its ready. Well if i dont get 'booked for a home birth' until Friday at 36+5 will they really get the stuff here before Monday? 37+1?
(and yes i know as its my 1st im highly likely to go overdue anyway, but i still want to be all ready!)
Any advice welcome!
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advice for getting the homebirth i want when "decision" wont be made until 36+5
nannyl · 24/06/2011 23:15
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