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Due today...but no sign of movement. Fed up!

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crazybutterflylady Fri 13-May-11 09:25:12

** Whinge alert! **

I am due today with my first baby. I was feeling ok about it until yesterday afternoon when I started to get bombarded with texts and phone calls wishing me luck today confused I got really stressed and a bit tearful!

Do people not understand how it works?!

I know I should be grateful that I have lots of family and friends who care about me and are wishing me well so I do feel dreadful for feeling this way...but I can't help it, it is stressing me out big time!! Perhaps it's a sign that things are starting...the irritability and grumpiness grin.

Is it really mean to just ignore people when they call and text? I just feel like I can't deal with repeating myself!

Yours very grumpily blush

EggyAllenPoe Fri 13-May-11 09:31:46

1)your baby is not likely to come today - though it is very likely to come in the next two weeks. Average gestation is 40+8 for spontaneous labour - really they should give that as due date.
2)i hope you are still feeling movement? or is that not what you meant?

EggyAllenPoe Fri 13-May-11 09:32:31

and you have every right to be grumpy! it is annoying.

crazybutterflylady Fri 13-May-11 09:40:01

Oh sorry yes, slightly ambiguous thread title there, sorry!

I am feeling movement but I mean no sign of the baby making it's way into the world yet! That was fine until the bombardment started...

<goes back to grumping>

I have a MW appointment shortly. Hopefully she will have good news!

Flisspaps Fri 13-May-11 09:44:16

It really pissed me off too, the phone calls and texts from well meaning nosy people. I found that posting this link, daily, on my FB page kept most people off their phones though. You'll get some people who take the silence as you being in labour, but after a couple of days of being ignored they should get the message!

The worst was one who would ring 'just to see how you are today' when they never EVER phone me any other time angry Sadly not everyone was mopped up via FB.

Queenofthehill Fri 13-May-11 09:55:38

Ha ha at flisspaps. Am totally posting that link if no sign by EDD. 39+1 now. Bored of being pg. Good luck, OP!

pissovski Fri 13-May-11 10:02:04

I am 40+9 today and getting very frustrated. People have texted me to say 'any news' and i feel like saying 'well, what do u think!' I have already told them that i will let them know as soon as he is here! Like you, it is lovely to know that people are thinking of us, but its still annoying.

JBrd Fri 13-May-11 11:38:15

Oh, I'll join the moan! I'm 40+4 today and have been completely irrational and emotional all week. You get so fixated on that one date, it's ridiculous. And the text/email/phone messages from well-meaning friends and relatives don't help at all! Neither does the fact that all my NCT friends gave birth this week - one of them was due after me and actually hijacked my due date!
Looking at their pictures makes me fall apart, I actually cried (a lot) - it's pathetic. Going round to one of them later today to meet their new baby, I'm half dreading it because I know I'll well up again.
The other half hopes the old wives tale of cuddling babies helping labour to get started is true grin

Whiteybaby Fri 13-May-11 13:08:43

Can I join in on the group moan? Am due today with DC2. DD1 was a week early so fully expected (and everyone said the same) that this one would be early too! No sign whatsobloodyever!. Am so tired of wearing the same pair of shoes that will fit my fat feet and the same tracksuit bottoms that fit my enormous tum! Am desperately trying to enjoy the quiet before the storm but am just fed up now. I'm a big believer in state of mind affecting labour and so at this rate he may never come out to meet his grumpy mum angry. Oh and also DH seems completely unsympathetic to how rubbish this is now...

Annnnnnd breaaathhheee... sorry major moan there! grin

notnowbernard Fri 13-May-11 13:13:36

Just barging in to send you all good luck vibes

These threads ALWAYS remind me of the run up to DC3's birth last year when I was The Most Miserable Woman On The Planet

It's so horrible being overdue. Mine were late, later and missed-induction-by-2-hrs grin so I can sympathise hugely

Not long now, though... wink (My most hated well-meaning comment with all pregnancies)

crazybutterflylady Fri 13-May-11 15:09:30

So nice to know I'm not alone!

Fliss that's genius, have nicked it thanks grin

JBrd have just met my NCT friends for lunch and one was leaking amniotic fluid and having contractions so said she was going to hospital on her way home... So I know how you feel! She is due in 2 weeks.

I suppose I at least know I only have 2 weeks at the most but its not helping much!! MW scheduled sweep for next Friday. Uh. Apparently head is engaged but she didn't seem hopeful. Hey ho!

Hope you/we all have your/our babies soon!

saldoozer Fri 13-May-11 15:37:01

Can I join in the moaning? I'm now 41+3, have been having pre labour signs since sunday. Had sweep on tuesday which didn't work and booked in for induction on tuesday. Fed up of getting niggles which then fizzle out to nothing, think I would rather have no signs. Bump feels heavy and pelvic region achey I seem to have so many signs of early labour but it never progresses. Really strong BH's sometimes every 5 mins for hours and an upset stomach confused.
This is made worse by phonecalls and texts off people. angry I do ignore them sometimes but then instead of leaving me alone people think i'm either in labour (i wish) or something terrible has happened (in which case texting them back would not really be a priority)

StiffyByng Fri 13-May-11 18:26:05

saldoozer, you are me! I cried harder yesterday than I ever have before in my entire life. And if one more person tells me to eat fucking pineapple, I'm going to insert one, whole, into someone's orifice. 4 sweeps and I'm still not effaced, and only 2cms dilated.

And out of the 7 women in my NCT class, 5 have given birth BEFORE their due dates, 3 jumping me. There's only me and one other left, who is due next Tuesday. I am betting on her beating me too.

Bubandbump Fri 13-May-11 19:24:16

Me too - am 40+4, went to see midwife today after they told me to come for a sweep and they said wouldn't do a sweep until 41 weeks but they have no appointments available next week! I refused to move until she booked me for Monday.

Also had reduced movement so they sent me to hospital for monitoring and a scan and baby is currently 9 pounds 10.. I really want it to come out soon now! Induction is now booked for Sunday 22nd...

I am the last in my nct group and am feeling like my body just can't do this pregnancy malarky normally. I keep getting upset about it and the midwives here really don't help- asking patronisingly if this is my first pregnancy really isn't helpful.


saldoozer Fri 13-May-11 20:26:45

stiffybyng I know what you mean, continually advised to eat pineapple or have sex. I have tried both and neither worked have also tried clary sage oil bump massage, holding someone elses baby, spicy food, Evening primrose oil and nipple stimulation and none worked.
Also with you on the crying, hormones coupled with the fact that I don't really have a lot to do except waiting to go into labour result in many tears, also when I do cry there is 10x more tears than usual. DH is being very nice about it but it is frustrating as even I know that the crying is irrational.
I don't really want to be induced but at least I know I can't be pregnant much longer. confused

Rosduk Fri 13-May-11 20:32:04

40+2 here. Had to get checked today as I thought my waters had gone- they hadn't but MW tried to do a cheeky sweep at the same time and gutted to find out cervix is not ready at all. Feel really deflated and fed up now as I have thought things were started a few times and I'm actually nowhere near! Boohoo

cowboylover Sat 14-May-11 20:31:33

I'm due tomorrow and it is annoying!

I text my besties and told them my phone is being turned off until further notice and any quiries are sent to my mum!

Even the lady in the shop is asking if I am fed up yet?!! Well no I am not but thanks for asking....

Not much longer now with or without Pineapples

MayMom Sun 15-May-11 19:33:18

I'm 40 + 1 and I lost my sense of humour a couple of days ago. I'm so fed up and I'm looking after my cheeky little 2 and a half yr old DD who is potty training and not adapting to her new bed. I feel awful but I'm dreading Monday when my DH is at work and it is just my DD and me for the day. I'm such a gargantuan elephant that getting out is hard work and REALLY uncomfortable. WHEN WILL THIS BABY COME??????? To top it all off, I saw a consultant last week who wrote on my notes......"Large baby - Beware". Brilliant. Just bloody brilliant.
My good friend does say that pregnancy is very well designed that it is just long enough to make you prepared to do ANYTHING to get the baby out. Well, I'm prepared for that. Bring it on NOW!

Wallace Sun 15-May-11 19:58:50

Oh no I always text people on their due date just to let them know I'm thinking of them. Sorry blush

peedieworky Sun 15-May-11 23:50:09

Stiffybyng you made me laugh out loud!! Am now 40+6 & growing weary of all the "advice". Nice to know people care but... Constant texts and same thing - if don't reply they think am in labour and start harassing me more. Then start calling if feel been too long. After a failed sweep today (cervix out of reach) despite baby being in launch position for weeks I really lost it and spent most of my morning crying! People try to be helpful and tell you to relax and enjoy but is so hard! Can't sleep, can't sit comfortably for more than 10 mins, can't waddle walk very far or do very much as feels like baby's head is scraping against my pelvis and like Whiteybaby I now only have 2 tops and one incredibly age/pregnancy inappropriate denim skirt (a loan from a friend) which doesn't feel as if it is cutting me in half.. Doesn't exactly make for relaxing time offangry

Ah.... I feel better after that rant grin And have booked myself in for a reflexology session next week in hope that gets things started before the planned induction at 40+10 hmm

Bubandbump Mon 16-May-11 07:47:24

41 weeks today!!

Waiting for the midwife to call to fit me in for a sweep as policy is they don't do them prior to 41 weeks even for a first timer. Would also like to find out how ready things are.

I am now of the theory that labour is caused by the mother releasing a 'oh my god I am so fed up please get out now' signal to the baby - unfortunately mine seems to have broken..

crazybutterflylady Mon 16-May-11 09:23:47

Hi all, still no movement here either. Have tried everything this weekend but nothing. Humph.

Another of the NCT girls has had hers - 2 weeks early <throws tantrum>

I am going to try raspberry leaf tablets today as have only been drinking tea till now and apparently the tablets are stronger?!

I know she won't arrive today because DH is working from home and that would all be too easy smile so am going shopping to take my mind off it.

Hope you are all ok...

Whiteybaby Mon 16-May-11 12:38:54

Hello.. am still here too. I cannot believe this baby is still hiding out! I had quite a lot of braxton hicks last night and very faint pains but nada.. I keep going to bed wondering and then waking up in the morning still pregnant (after the required hourly trips to the loo of course!) I even dreamt I lost my plug last night.. hmm.

Sweep booked for weds and having missed all of this last time I am dreading it... am a bit of a wuss and prude and the thought of the midwife having a good rummage around is not filling me with joy!

At home with DD today and praying she might actually go to sleep (she is currently singing in her cot) as I really want to slump on the sofa for a bit. We watched rather a lot of Cbeebies this morning until I could drag myself out.

Any baby arrivals out there??? bub, know how you feel seeing others arrive.. a close friend of mine had hers a month ago now at 32 weeks and although I am delighted that he is now home and doing brilliantly I cant believe he is over a month old and I am still waiting.. I was supposed to be 3 weeks before her!

kiwidreamer Mon 16-May-11 16:00:09

Hello everyone, so glad there is a club for the seriously overdue and over it mama's. I'm 10 days over today and mentally kinda had today as my 'if it doesn't happen by then it's not going to happen' day and now it's here I'm totally pissed off at my body, what the hell is wrong with me that I can't push my own babies out (DS induced at 16 days, EMCS at 17). Will try one last sweep and reflexology in next few days and then c section booked for Friday. At least I don't have to be induced if I dont want to, consultant said things were looking very average at 7 days over that she wouldn't bother with induction. Feel so crap I can't do this on my own Grrrr. And yes I know all that matters is healthy baby and mama and how a baby comes into the world isnt nearly as important as the long parenting journey ahead but it's so blimmen frustrating, and you know secretly everyone has an opinion of why you haven't gone into labour or what you should be doing differently and speculating what is wrong with you (or maybe that's just my MIL)


Come on baby!!!!!

Vakant Mon 16-May-11 18:16:24

Can I join the party? I'm 6 days over and thoroughly pissed off now. The never ending stream of advice to eat some pineapple is testing my limits, but I nearly lost it when someone asked the other day if the baby had stopped moving - because if she had that meant she was getting ready to come out. I can't believe the shite, and completely inaccurate, "advice" some people come out with.

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