Im 31 weeks pregnant and my MW has told me due to my anemia i'm not allowed a homebirth! found out they knew i was anemic 11 weks ago, but I only got told a few weeks ago in the hospital as I was addmited for blacking out.Tha MW says I wont be able to get my levels up by 36 weeks and thats when she will organise the homebirth, she is also telling me my Hb needs to be 11, but have been told it needs to be over 10, when I told her this , she got quite defencive, and told me there is quote 'no way i'm allowed a home birth'! I'm having nightmares about going into hospital, following a very tumatic birth and treatment with DC2! :(
I was anemic with both other DC's at the end of the pregnancys and in labour with DD1, has hb levels the same as now (8.8) but didnt have any problems, I live 5 min walk from the hospital so if there was problems I could get there fast. A few people have said i'm selfish, because is something happened to me, I would leave the kids motherless, but I would like, after 2 horrid labours, to have a nice experience! but this has also got to me, and I'm starting to feel maybe I AM selfish for wanting this :( It's also causing problems with DP, as I told him, if I cant get a homebirth, I will go tho hospital by myself untill my mum (who lives miles away!) can get here to look after dc ( they do not want anyone but nanny or dad) and he thinks im trying to take away the experience from him!but if I'm stuck in hospital, I dont want the thought of 2 crying scared kids to worry about as well I have read on other threads that you don't NEED permistion, but i'm not very assertive, and with the hormones on top, any confrontation, i just cry!
Should I just forget about my dream Homebirth????
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Homebirth, is it my right to have one?
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Manicmummyhavinabiccy · 31/12/2010 14:12
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