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Is there anyone out there who DIDN'T tear with first delivery?

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LeviStubbsTears Wed 08-Dec-10 22:13:32

It seems almost inevitable that one has some sort of tear after delivery of first child (and often second or third-degree...). Is there anyone who avoided this (and had a vaginal birth!), and if so, any tips on how you thought you managed it? I know it's not the end of the world, but any tips for staying relatively in one piece would be gratefully received!

needtogetalife Wed 08-Dec-10 22:16:08

I didnt tear, all I can say is listen to your midwife, follow what she says because thats all I did. I never went to anti-natal classes or had the internet to read all kinds of things. Follow your body and listen to midwife (as I said before)

good luck x

CheckeredFlag Wed 08-Dec-10 22:19:08

I don't think a tear is inevitable, I didn't tear with either of mine. One waterbirth, one very quick non-water birth.

toomuchmonthatendofthemoney Wed 08-Dec-10 22:19:14

Me, i didn't tear at all. Very long labour though!

I think a midwife made a comment that i had had lots of time to "stretch" <sorry tmi!> so that was why i didn't tear. It took a good few contractions to get ds' head fully out, not in one big rush, so that may have helped. I guess it is just down to luck really, don't know if there is much you can do. I certainly wasn't caring by then, they could have cut me in half with a magician's saw if it meant getting ds out - after so long in pain i wasn't really on this planet!!

LeonardNimoy Wed 08-Dec-10 22:23:34

I didn't tear, although I had a cut from DS fingrnail, which was very sore like a papercut! I had a fast delivery, was 9cm by the time we got to hospital and he was born 20 mins later, so please don't scare youtself by thinking it's inevitable

countless Wed 08-Dec-10 22:26:10

I also didn't tear at all, not a scratch and had a relatively short 1st labour (5hrs. I second listen to your midwife. In the midst of all the crying and screaming the midwife said 'listen carefully and do exactly as i say or you may tear' my ears pricked up and i became very alert! basically i then only pushed when told to and phew we were fine.

ChasingSquirrels Wed 08-Dec-10 22:31:00

I didn't tear with my first, but tbh I don't think it was anything but luck - certainly it wasn't anything I did before hand, and I don't think it was anything I did during - don't think I listened a flying fuck to the midwife.

I had a slight grazing with my second, but I think that was due to the speed of the delivery, and maybe also the lack of a midwife (due to the speed).

jennifersofia Wed 08-Dec-10 22:32:22

I didn't tear for mine. I think it was partially luck and partially due to having a homebirth (quite relaxed) (well, as much as you can be!)

treedelivery Wed 08-Dec-10 22:33:53

No tear smile. That was an 18-ish hour flogging, epidural, syntocinon, active pushing sat in bed with legs up...the whole thing. I think I of room hmmgrin. I do have really crappy skin, thin, white, papery and it heals slowly and always scars.

I was pretty resigned to my bottom falling off, so was delighted to remain intact.

Tore with dd2, but that was much quicker [2-4 hours ish] and with no painrelief, so she shot out as I was totally unable to control myself. It was only a small tear and only stung for a about 5 days I think. I was on my side for her. I found pushing sitting with my legs up much easier and also easier to control. I'd do that again if I went for dc3.


JumpJockey Wed 08-Dec-10 22:35:00

Nope, no tears or grazes at all. Had dd in water, and the only input from MW was to let things come gently as she was crowning. I think it was the water that made the real difference. Plus there was plenty of the baby-nearly-out baby-going-back-in with the final few pushes, which was pretty disheartening (I did at one point say "Is the baby ever going to come out?" blush) but this really helped let everything stretch gently at the last minute.

NormalityBites Wed 08-Dec-10 22:38:59

No tear here. And no long labour either. In fact I had a 2 hour labour, planned home birth and a less than 6 minute second stage so by rights I should have exploded down there. Didn't though.

I attribute it to listening only to myself. Being as how I was generally the only person there grin

abenstille Wed 08-Dec-10 22:46:44

me - though v long labour (26 hours) natural birth but ended up in a bed with stirrups. I had 'grazes' but no tears. You'll be fine

KellyBronze Thu 09-Dec-10 01:30:13

I didn't tear with first. Horrendous induction with ventouse delivery too. I grazed and was horribly bruised though. I put it down to ignoring the midwife who was shouting me to hold my breath and push. I exhaled as I pushed. I had read in the Active Birth book by Janet Balaskas that you should never breath hold and push unlike what they all seem to do in the movies and TV.

DD2 was a very fast home water birth - under 2 hrs. I didn't even push once and she was out in 3 contractions. No midwife was there and just let my body do what it can do.

MrsRhettButler Thu 09-Dec-10 01:33:16

i didn't tear either..

i olive oiled my lady bits for months before birth though, apparently this makes it more stretchy and supple <disclaimer: i have no idea if this is true> grin

MrsRhettButler Thu 09-Dec-10 01:33:46

dd was 8 11 btw

colditz Thu 09-Dec-10 01:36:17

0.5 cm. they offered me a stitch or breakfast - I took breakfast.

hillee Thu 09-Dec-10 02:42:36

I didn't tear with my first - and I had the whole shebang - prostin, ARM, syntocin and a giant epidural. I agree with toomuch, it's the timing. It took me an hour to very slowly push DD's head out. And then one final push on the rest and she was out.

Listen to the Obs/midwife, and only push in contractions. That being said, that is easier to say if you can't feel the pain. So I'm not too helpful on this front if you intend not to have drugs etc.

highschoolmum Thu 09-Dec-10 07:38:09

I second absolutely everything needtogetalife said, listen to your midwife, I had a 9lb 8oz first baby, no tear or stitches, followed a year later by a 9lb 12oz baby in 4 hours, no tear or stitches.

I was also lucky to have the same midwife, she had said to me that she could count on one hand the number of cuts she had done or had to stitch. She was only young too, but very very good at her job.

pud1 Thu 09-Dec-10 07:47:18

i didnt tear. i followed the midwifes instuctions. this is after my friend had more stitches than they could count. she said that she did not listen to the midwife. so i followed her advise to do as i am told

goingroundthebend4 Thu 09-Dec-10 07:53:18

did not tear with ds1.8.3 or with ds2 at 10.4 and was only about 2 hrs with him

though dd at 4.10lb made up for it with csection

marriednotmulled Thu 09-Dec-10 08:02:04

No tear here either- one of the slow ones with a good midwife so a tiny graze.

Was only one of 8 on our ward walking straight- the other 7 were fighting over a couple of rubber rings shock

AmandaCooper Thu 09-Dec-10 08:28:54

<waves to LST> Oooh it's getting close now! Hope you're doing well x

SpotSplatterSplash Thu 09-Dec-10 08:57:27

No tears with any of mine.

DD1, I think was luck (and she was 6.5lb, so not too big).

With DS (10.75lb) and DD2 (7.13lb) I had the same midwife and she was fabulous.

Of course I could just have a stretchy fanjo smile

midori1999 Thu 09-Dec-10 09:57:25

I didn't tear and DS1 was 9lb. Didn't tear with 10lb DS2 either, not sure what that says about me though... blush

GetOrfMoiLand Thu 09-Dec-10 09:59:40

Tearing is not inevitable.

I had a very qucik labour with my dd (first and only) - about an hour from start to finish. I didn't tear - had what they said a slight scratch internally, but it wasn't painful.

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