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Stitches down below - To look or not to look!?

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first1 Sat 06-Nov-10 15:28:04

I had my baby in May but required restitching in August, 11 weeks ago. Been told all healed fine and have a "beautiful perineum" hmm but just can't bring myself to get a mirror out! I havent looked at all since having baby. I was never exactly fine-tuned with my bits even before pregnancy but part of me is really curious! Will I regret it?!

BooBooGlass Sat 06-Nov-10 15:31:05

I was ready to say never look, but after 11 weeks it should be fine

sarahscot Sat 06-Nov-10 15:57:58

I was going to say don't look too - I did after a couple of weeks and was horrified at the massacre that had gone on down there!

However, after 11 weeks it should be pretty much healed.

Be brave and go for it.

Odysseus Sat 06-Nov-10 16:02:19

I never looked before I had a baby, so have been happy to trust my doctors judgement. 11 months on I'm still too scared to look!

RiojaLover75 Sat 06-Nov-10 16:09:44

Hell woman! It's your Fanjo!!!

Look at it for goodness sake, it'll be well healed after 11 weeks and I speak from experience shock.

FrameyMcFrame Sat 06-Nov-10 16:33:02

I wouldn't bother, if it's giving you no problems now and the docs say it's fine then what's to see?

ethelina Sat 06-Nov-10 16:33:09

You have to look! Its much less scarey than it seems. I had stitches which came out too early and been redone and I looked before and after. It's all quite neat and tidy and I'm glad I could recognise it in a lineup grin

sh77 Sat 06-Nov-10 16:41:45

Yes, looking after 11 weeks shouldn't be too scary. Stitches should have healed and bruising and tenderness gone down. I would have said NO before 4 weeks.

cardamomginger Sat 06-Nov-10 18:08:20

have a stiff drink and go for it!

ipredicttrouble Sat 06-Nov-10 22:22:29

I looked at about 6 weeks post labour and all was fine. Just a small and very neat scar where I had been cut. Hardly noticeable thought TBH.

IsItNapTimeYet Sun 07-Nov-10 11:44:40

I looked as soon as I got home!

Mostly I kept checking to make sure there was no infection starting.

DurhamDurham Sun 07-Nov-10 11:50:54

I didn't look until about 6 weeks later, still didn't look great (but then did it ever look great?)

My dh watched the mid-wife stitch me and helpfully told me that it looked like "a devastation area" down there. He did look at me with new respect after my bravery (he doesn't need to know I was too exhausted and numb to feel anything)

clarabellarocks Tue 09-Nov-10 08:40:35

I looked after a week and wished to god I hadn't - it was carnage!!

ihavenewsockson Tue 09-Nov-10 08:54:02

i looked at 2 and completely freaked out- eveything was still so swollen, I thought they'd sewed everything together.

11 weeks should be fine, don't panic.

first1 Tue 09-Nov-10 18:10:40

Gp checked again for me today that all is healed but I still can't bring myself to it! Maybe next year...

NorkilyChallenged Tue 09-Nov-10 18:11:57

I've never looked. DD1 is nearly 4...

hillyhilly Tue 09-Nov-10 18:16:12

I've been stitched twice, the last time was over 3 years ago and it has actually never occurred to me to look!!

LoveBeingAMummy Tue 09-Nov-10 18:16:37

I looked after asking the mw how thingscwere looking and she told me to get a mirror. Tbh it wasn't the stiches that bothered me.... It was the rest of it (shudder)

AmeliaEarhart Tue 09-Nov-10 18:21:03

I had an episiotomy last week and I've been wondering whether to have a look. Despite being reassured by the midwife this morning that it's healing nicely I'll take the advice given here and steer clear.

The epidural had worn off by the time the doctor was sewing me up but she refused to wait for the local anaesthetic to kick-in so I felt every bloody stitch!

Hopalongcassidy Tue 09-Nov-10 18:22:30

I looked...but wasn't exactly sure what it had looked like before. Bit of an anticlimax.

Marjee Tue 09-Nov-10 20:09:21

I've never looked, was tempted to a few times but always wimped out, ds is 1yo now! Should I be concerned that the midwives didn't check either?

gegs73 Tue 09-Nov-10 20:14:10

I didn't look after DS2. I did after DS1 and rather wished I hadn't.

KatyS36 Tue 09-Nov-10 21:38:38

I looked after about 10 days (2nd degree tear).

It was nowhere near as bad as I had expected

nattiecake Wed 10-Nov-10 16:44:55

The midwives never checked me either Marjee, I gave birth 5 weeks ago. I've looked a few times but couldnt even see the scar. My husband had a look 1 week after birth and said my fanjo looked normal, but pointed out that I had piles that I hadnt even noticed!! Lol!!

luceeloo Thu 18-Nov-10 18:22:35

Never ever intend to!

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