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swizzlestix Fri 20-Oct-17 10:27:57

My 10 year old daughter wants this as says ALL her friends have it. Have any of you had any safety issues with it. I know you can have Ghost Mode to stop your location being visible. Thanks

swizzlestix Thu 26-Oct-17 05:56:53


sashh Thu 26-Oct-17 06:14:26

The pictures don't 'disappear'. Anything she takes a pic of or is sent to her stays on her phone.

She will argue this with you but it is true.

I'm a teacher, I hate snapchat.

Firefries Thu 26-Oct-17 06:16:06

Snapchat is awful. Do not let your kids on it. Im not joking. It's a nightmare.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions Thu 26-Oct-17 06:44:38

It's not the safest of social media.

While sassh is right that anything your daughter takes will remain on the camera roll that's not the problem with "disappearing" pictures sassh. The problem is the fact that the pictures disappear means it's very very very very easy to cyber bully. No proof you see, the picture lasts 5 seconds, it's gone as soon as you take your finger off it. It's also easy to receive well adult pictures for same reason and it can become a bit of a grooming ground.

Also yes sure you could screen cap these messages, but two things it might not occur to a ten year old to do that, and it tells the sender that their picture has been screen capped, which could spark more bullying, or people trying to get hold of the phone to delete the evidence.

Although I imagine a lot of 10 year olds do have it not something I would risk

pp2017 Thu 26-Oct-17 06:46:56

Snapchat pictures DO delete by default, but there are ways to save them if the recipient really wanted to (screenshots, other third party apps).

You can change settings so that she can only receive snapchats from friends ie not random strangers and make the settings so that she can only be “added” by people who already have her number. She can of course, always change those settings herself!

My friends and I all use it perfectly innocently and mostly for a laugh, but I’m 36 so I can’t comment on how teenagers use it.

I’ve read horrific stories about it being used for bullying, that would probably be the thing that would make me most uncomfortable about letting a teenager have it....

pp2017 Thu 26-Oct-17 06:48:53

Sorry in my half asleep state I thought your DD was 14?! Just realised 10 - no way to SC but then I won’t let my DS (almost 10) have a phone, I’ve told him no way until he’s in secondary school.

sashh Thu 26-Oct-17 10:16:13

The problem is the fact that the pictures disappear means it's very very very very easy to cyber bully. No proof you see, the picture lasts 5 seconds, it's gone as soon as you take your finger off it.

No it isn't. The 'delete' function doesn't delete it tells the phone to ignore it.

Remember in the old days when if you wanted to save a word document then you had to put .doc after the name? Now it's automatically done. What snapchat does is change the file extension (.doc or .gif or . whatever) to .nomedia, this means it is invisble but is still there

They will not show up in a search but they are in the cache and even if you have deleted your cache there are still ways to recover it.

CauliflowerSqueeze Thu 26-Oct-17 10:17:21

The terms and conditions state she should be 13+.

UnFuckingAcceptable Thu 26-Oct-17 10:42:46

Don't do it!!!

I had similar concerns but my dd 'played' with her aunties Snapchat a lot, the filters etc are great fun, so I eventually relented but the condition was only her aunts, cousins and closest friends on there.

Her aunts are quite young and Snapchat a lot. I thought it'd be mainly them she interacted with.

Her 'friend' sent some really mean chats. One of my rules was she could only have SC on my iPad and only go on it when I was present so thankfully I saw the chats. I spoke to friends mum who accuses DD of exaggerating and insist she was always supervising when her DD was on sc.

Anyway, long story short, we deleted account and let DD have Instagram instead. Seems less open to bullying and nastiness (though I'm learning about live stories in there now and am slightly concerned)

Social media is a minefield for parents of pre-teens.
They are so vulnerable to bullying and abuse, so desperate to have all these things though and majority of kids in year 6 have them.

swizzlestix Fri 27-Oct-17 07:21:59

Thanks so much everyone that's really helpful and it is definitely a big fat NO.
Really pleased I asked as was wavering!

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