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Found 11 year old watching YouTube porn on iphone

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Mydietstartstomorrow Wed 28-Jun-17 11:08:56

Discovered last night my son has been looking at porn on YouTube despite having set adult restrictions on wifi and his phone. Somehow it has managed to get through filters which I have now found out can happen on bloody YouTube. School has held the "talk" recently so curiosity is obviously high. I'm obviously really upset my "baby" has viewed this kind of content. I had previously found he had looked up stuff approx a year ago when he was away at his Dads (hadn't thought to put filters on there but has now) and when we spoke about it he said it was because boys at school in the playground were talking about it so he looked. At the time we told him it wasn't appropriate for children to look at, and that it was acting and not what a normal loving relationship is blah blah blah, and it has not happened since until now. I know I shouldn't be mad but he knows he shouldn't access this from last time, I just don't know how to respond now. He knows I frequently check his phone, we have the agreement if he has a phone I will look at it anytime I like. I'm pissed off ive put on all restrictions and this has still got through.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 28-Jun-17 11:19:41

Talk to him, discuss porn, tell him porn doesn't reflect real life sex and the majority of women aren't enjoying what they're doing,they're doing it for money or because they have no choice. Tell him he must leave his phone downstairs before bed. Tell him you'll be randomly checking his phone and if he deletes his history you'll take his phone away.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 28-Jun-17 11:22:13

Keep calm and tell him you will answer any questions he has or if he doesn't want to ask you face to face then to write them down and leave them in your room.

Before it was porn it was girlie mags getting passed round at school. I long for those days sad

Mydietstartstomorrow Wed 28-Jun-17 11:23:12

I talked to him about that last time so I'm more disappointed this time as he already knows that. I've currently taken his phone away, and have added YouTube to the banned sites list so he can no longer watch it which is a shame as he loves watching football clips on it.

Mydietstartstomorrow Wed 28-Jun-17 11:25:03

That's a good idea about asking him to write it down as he is so embarrassed right now, thanks for that!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 28-Jun-17 11:26:01

Can you not put parental restrictions on you tube?

SwedishToast Wed 28-Jun-17 11:28:03

I don't be know how effective filters on YouTube would be as there shouldn't even be any porn on YouTube

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 28-Jun-17 11:31:02

I would take his phone away for a period of time, a week? And make it very clear that it'll be longer if there's a next time.

Mydietstartstomorrow Wed 28-Jun-17 12:08:59

I've taken it away, it'll probably be longer than a week! I've told him he can now only go on YouTube on the smart TV downstairs to look at his football stuff

Youareabadparent Tue 18-Jul-17 17:15:48

This is perfectly normal for kids his age. Let up on the restrictions because if he wants to see something, he can do it. Regardless of how many restrictions you impose.

ParvJessy Sat 14-Oct-17 11:58:23

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RavingRoo Sat 14-Oct-17 12:03:12

He’s 11 and so in secondary. Confiscating his phone or restricting his internet won’t be as beneficial as giving him proper sex education. The best thing to do is talk about why he watched what he did, how it made him feel, let him confide in you and then you can gently correct him when required.

washingmachinefastwash Sat 14-Oct-17 12:29:41

My son watches YouTube kids, could you look into that? I’m not sure if it’s more cartoon rather than football clips.

I have strict filter mode on YouTube although a sweary video managed to get through the restrictions as it was cartoon type stuff.

washingmachinefastwash Sat 14-Oct-17 12:30:50

I also wouldn’t confiscate his phone, talk to him about what he’s seen and explain that what he’s seen isn’t a loving relationship.

Wilderful Fri 20-Oct-17 19:37:04

Restrictions don't work at that age. If anything it encourages them to find other ways to access the blocked content.

Talk about it. If you can have a healthy discussion with him about these topics now it will make things a lot easier in the future.

Helena17 Thu 09-Nov-17 10:59:44

You need to talk to him. This is pretty normal for kids as they have limited judgement when it comes to this kinds of things. Tell them what's good and what's not and make them understand that there are things not meant for kids yet.

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