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12 year old son screen locking phone

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busymum44 Wed 07-Mar-12 14:16:33

I did do a bigger post but don't know where its gone and can't re type it all now!

Should I stop my 12 year old son screen locking his phone? I monitor his FB account(don't have one myself) and feel that this is not acceptable at his age. Me and his Dad don't lock our phones and I worry that if there was any bullying going on I would be unaware.

He says he does it so I can't look at his texts(have you seen the way they write?!! Like I'd want to read them!) I just want to know that hes safe, I would never forgive myself if he was being bullied and I didn't know because it was on his phone.


Falafelings Sun 26-Mar-17 07:39:47

While he's school age particularly you have a responsibility to keep him safe and help him to use technology in a responsible manner. In theory he should be able to show his grandmother every website and text without embarrassment. Locking you out is not a good sign and does not show responsible usage.

While he's under 16 and your paying for the phone, it is your business. No access would equal no phone.

BottleBeach Sun 26-Mar-17 07:29:54

Well, looking at the date of this thread, he's 17 now, so he's allowed Facebook now!

Justwantcookies Thu 09-Mar-17 19:31:11

He can screen lock it but you should know the code! He's 12. Also why on earth does he have FB at 12? Have you any idea the types of stuff that circulate on there?

Squeegle Thu 09-Mar-17 19:28:12

Yes, there has been stuff going on in my DS's school, I saw some of it and it was absolutely obscene actually, there is so much out there and these children don't have the experience to deal with it actually

Itwasthenandstillis Thu 09-Mar-17 05:57:40

Yes. You should have access to it. There has been bullying going on in my son's class group. He shows me and we talk about it. I told the mother -a good friend -of one of the main kids bullying. Her child won't let her see the phone -she didn't know about it. One child posted a shockingly racist chain text -I assume quite naively. 12/13 is too young to know how to handle social media, chat groups etc without guidance.

Jaynebxl Thu 09-Mar-17 05:42:36

Quite funny how many times this little thread has been resurrected!

But I would absolutely check at 13 and I bet loads of parents do too. And keep talking about what's happening on their phone. We discovered some really nasty stuff from a girl in ds class on his phone that he really needed to be able to talk about.

Squeegle Thu 09-Mar-17 05:25:04

This thread still very relevant- how many of you do check your child's phone. Age 13, it seems like there are a lot of dangers out there. My son says none of the parents do, but I don't think this is right surely?

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StoorieHoose Sat 12-Nov-16 09:54:13

For the love that of all that is holy - of course EVERY smart phone should have a pin / screen lock. Parents should mp now what the code is but if the phone was to be lost and someone gain access to everything on that phone you will be wishing that you has a screen lock on it

Squeegle Sat 12-Nov-16 09:45:52

jenny, do you still use this, does it work for you? Does your child know it is there?

jennykay Wed 03-Feb-16 17:31:42

Hello, GotABitTricky! I can recommend you to install some keylogger software or monitor on his phone. I use the iOS keylogger from the website here for my kid's phone, and it works nicely for us. I can see everything he browses and all the chats. It will work in your case too

GotABitTricky Sat 30-Jan-16 19:27:53

OLD THREAD, but relevant topic.

My 12 year old has recently locked his phone (that I pay for of course)
but I think I need make a stance on this.

Gonna be an almighty tantrum, but this old thread has certainly got me thinking.

NotADragonOfSoup Thu 07-Feb-13 18:04:44

Posters often get annoyed when they realise it is a zombie thread, Startail.

weegiemum Thu 07-Feb-13 17:50:37

Clearly, my iPad can't spell <fail>

Startail Thu 07-Feb-13 17:50:35

Dragon Who cares it's an interesting subject

weegiemum Thu 07-Feb-13 17:49:30

If any of my dc (13, 11, 9) lock any device, wheteher it is kindle (dd2), psvita (ds) touchscreen phones (ds and dd1), laptop (dd1) the device is simply removed until wre negotiate a system in which no one in our house has passwords and, I they do (for phones carried to school etc) all our passwords (Inc dh and I) are shared.
Nothing to hide, nothing to worry about. Also in our house, all phones/devices (apart from my iPad as I have a disability w which means I can't hold and use books) are downstairs overnight. I'd switch off the wifi if I thought it was being flounted!
Bed is. Forsleepung, and my young teenage dc get Internet or website access merely on tne understanding that they listen!

Startail Thu 07-Feb-13 17:46:27

My DDs lock their phones and iPods in case they get stolen, but I know their codes.

I actually don't check because I know DD2 would hate it and at present I have no reason to pick a fight when I don't have any reason to think she's doing anything other than chatting to her friends.

DD1 wouldn't be so stupid as to not delete anything she didn't want me to see.
She is the openest, chattiest most trustworthy child you could wish to meet, she is also DH and I's daughter and neither of us ever told our parents things they didn't need to know.

blankenburg Thu 07-Feb-13 17:43:00

My dd1(12) had a lock on her phone. I told her to take it off. She moaned that it was unfair as it was her phone so i said either take it off or have no phone so she did. Im glad i told her to do it as i checked her phone yesterday and found alot of very inappropiate stuff on it so she now has no phone for the foreseeable future. IMO at 12 they do not need privacy.

NotADragonOfSoup Thu 07-Feb-13 17:38:19

original post is from nearly a year ago

phoenixrose314 Thu 07-Feb-13 17:36:39

We only gave DSD a phone on the proviso that she never passworded or pin coded anything. If we found she had, it got removed. End of.

As parents it is our job to protect children from the reality out there on the Internet, and I think smart phones have only helped to make it a much more difficult job!!

colditz Thu 07-Feb-13 17:36:11

And yes, if I'm paying for something I will do as I damn well please with it, and that includes taking it away if it's not respected.

colditz Thu 07-Feb-13 17:35:11

Tamlev13, he's not 'people', he's a child and doesn't get privacy with things like mobile phones and email accounts.

NotADragonOfSoup Thu 07-Feb-13 17:28:07

zombie thread

stealthsquiggle Thu 07-Feb-13 17:23:55

Fair enough to have a pin on the phone so that his siblings/mates/anyone who pinches it can't hijack it, but you need to know what the pin is. That is my rule with DS (not that he has a phone yet, but with his netbook and ipod).

ironhorse Thu 07-Feb-13 17:15:49

hes 12 - he doesnt need privacy on/about his phone useage and should not lock his phone or if he does you need to know what the details are so you can get into it any time you want.

tamlev you are obviously a child posting on here...

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