17yr old with excessive mood swings ... help!

[Hatty666]

i just wondered if anyone else out there lives with a 17year old with excessive mood swings?
DD has always been and emotional child and perhaps I should of sought help for her earlier. It came to a head last year prior to GCSE's so did put it down to that. When things did not improve during summer I got an appointment with a psychologist, through a friend. We were told that DD had mild depression with anxiety but did not particularly need medication etc.
I have really tried to be supportive, always showing and telling her how much she is loved, she will have a "meltdown' be very angry towards me (which most of the time I brush off as I know it's because I'm mum) tearful, threaten to kill herself, and want to quit everything. I booked her some counselling sessions but after 2 refused to go.
I have , with her agreement, made a gp appointment for this week.
Today after another meltdown as she had to walk ( not far) to work in the ice, is refusing to go to G.p and now saying she is not coming home!!!
Like I mentioned for most time I am supportive but of late I am starting to not be!! I know it's wrong, but I get angry back. A part of me thinks is she being a brat !!! Due to the things she gets in a state about.
I am scared for her, I dont want this for her, I'm also scared she actually might do something sad
Any advice welcome, am I going about this all the wrong way?

[Yorkshirebornandbread]

Hello sorry you are having a difficult time with your DD. It sounds like she may be scared of growing up so is behaving in a childish way. If she has been previously diagnosed with mild depression would the GP discuss a way forward/medication? My other thought would be around a need for control and not being able to deviate from fixed plans. Can you do nice things together as a treat, not as a reward, such as shopping or the cinema, just having a relaxed time with no pressure? I hope this helps a bit x

[Hatty666]

Thank you for replying, funnily enough the psychologist mentioned a "being out of control" aspect to her behaviour. I do try and do nice things together as she is, when not feeling down with life, a lovely caring girl. We have an appointment with a different dr next week as the one we saw advised .. watching t.v and eat chocolate. !!!! Seriously!!

[IsabelFW]

Hey, I just saw this.

How are you two doing now? Is everything okay?
Is she better?

If she is still refusing to go to appointments, or start doing it all over again, maybe to try with online therapist ?

They are quite convenient for teenagers, as they have texting options - and for youngesters it is more approachable to send texts when they feel lonely instead to talk to someone face to face. Also, she don't have to wait until appointment - she can text whenever she feels like she should.

Let me know if this was helpful.

I hope that you are good.

[Hatty666]

Hi thank you. She did see a therapist who has felt that anti-depressants were the way to go. I was very reluctant but she is trying them. Early days yet !! she is booked for counselling and is going to try that again, it starts very soon. The person sounds very good and they met and seemed to have a good rapport. She has managed to make some lovely new friends through work too, which has helped as her previous peer group did not help. She is very loyal and they were very flaky?
Fingers crossed we are on the up. :)

[IsabelFW]

Fingers crossed Hatty!

This sounds good! I hope everything gets better in time.