Really don't know how to deal with this... ds has been going downhill for several months now. He has ASD (fairly mild) and dyspraxia and has never found school an easy place to be but up until the last year or so seemed to be just about managing.
He underperformed in his GCSEs but still managed to get a few As, Bs and a couple of Cs. He had a rocky start to Y12 - influx of new pupils, lots of new teachers, too much freedom and too many bums on seats (the sixth form is so large there's physically not enough space for them all to fit in so local kids are encouraged to go home in free periods).
Gradually he started doing less and less work and becoming increasingly disengaged. Cajoling, encouraging, nagging, punishing had no effect and he started refusing to go to school. Surprisingly he did go in for his AS exams but did predictably badly given the amount of work he'd done.
Over the summer he's been spending more and more time in bed, and withdrawing from family life and life in general. He didn't go out at all in the summer holidays, he did come on holiday with us but barely left his room. He's deficient in vitamin D but won't take supplements (he gags on tablets no matter how tiny) or spend any time outside. He looks awful - his skin is virtually grey, he's very thin and has to be prodded into showering, washing his hair, brushing teeth etc. Much of the time he shuffles round like an old man - he's lost all his spark and joy in life.
The only time he comes alive is when he's playing online computer games, which has become an addiction. We have tried putting restrictions in place but he ignores them or finds a way round them.
He's now not been to school for a week and yesterday refused to get out of bed until after 7pm and today wasn't much better. He's crashing out of school (A-levels are obviously not happening now) and seems so miserable and I just don't seem to be able to do anything to stop it happening. He's had one session with CAMHS but as he won't engage with them and says there's nothing wrong the options they can offer are limited.
I don't know what to do to help him and can't bear watching him living this half life. Sorry this is so long ... any words of wisdom/comiseration/hope would be appreciated
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Child mental health
Ds(17) refusing to get out of bed
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noitsnotteatimeyet · 26/09/2017 22:47
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