Worried about my 9 year old niece.

[elise2016]

I am new to This so I am after some advise I am really worried about my 9 year old niece we have been through a rough year and she is not handle it well at all.loosing her temper and hurting her younger brother and also my sister(her mum) the other day she even tried to stab my sister with a kitchen knife and his one in her wardrobe!!! I am very concerned as I don't know what to do someone is going to get hurt but my sister won't do anything because she dosnt want social services to take her away .

[YuckYuckEwwww]

Well from the sounds of it SS should be concerned, since if I'm reading this right, your sister is denying her daughter mental health help and support because she doesn't want to be "on the radar"

Or have I missed the point?

[elise2016]

Yes she is worried that if she tells someone that they will blame her and she will get kids taken off her.i have said that she needs some sort of counciling as we have all had a bad year and then this she needs help but I'm just not getting through to her.

[OzzieFem]

Call SS before she seriously hurts someone. If she is hurting her younger brother and sister as well as attempting to stab her mother, than think how you would feel if it got out of hand (already bloody has fgs) and someone ended up dead!

Don't think because your niece is 9 that it won't happen. CALL SS NOW.

[FlissMumsnet]

Hi Elise2016,

We're really pleased you've come to Mumsnet seeking advice, we've moved your thread into Children's Mental Health as we feel you're find support there but please do seek help in real life too, there's no replacement for that!

[YuckYuckEwwww]

Yes she is worried that if she tells someone that they will blame her and she will get kids taken off her.

So she's more worried about herself than she is about getting medical help for her daughters mental health issues

If that was my niece who was having care witheld from her by her parents I'ld call SS myself!

[YuckYuckEwwww]

Just to be clear:

SS are not going to judge your sister because of your nieces problems

They are (rightly so) going to judge her for not accessing help for your niece, and the longer she witholds help for your niece, the harsher they will (and should) judge her!