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Worried about ds 10

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JessiePinkman Tue 16-Jun-15 15:16:39

Hi I've posted about this before but got no responses. I'm looking for help understanding my son, he's lovely, social,chatty, smart & kind. But he's a worrier and not very strong emotionally. For eg he gets very upset losing a game, he crys at 'sad' adverts for sponsoring an animal/child, he can't enjoy a shopping trip because he's worried about the homeless person we just past. He loves sport & enters himself or badgers me to enter him for things & then at the last minute has an 'emotional breakdown ' of some sort. He says he doesn't know why he gets upset & we just comfort him, offer solutions etc but it seems to go in one ear & out the other. It worries me so much that he seems so close to tears a lot of the time. What has caused this? I consider myself to be emotionally strong & my other children too so I struggle to understand. Has anyone been through this? Book recommendations? I just bought what to do when you worry too much but 75% of the time he seems like a care-free child. Should I take him to a psychologist maybe? Thank you

TrollTheRespawnJeremy Tue 16-Jun-15 17:23:48

He's just a little bit anxious and perhaps a bit sensitive. There's nothing wrong with the latter.

You may find that the ease with which your other children function makes him feel more prone and pressured. Just don't make a big deal out of it. He's just a different soul to your other kids.
Fear of not living up to his parent's or siblings abilities will make things harder. Find something he is interested in, maybe drama to let him explore his feelings and thoughts. It might give him more confidence and reduce the anxiety.

JessiePinkman Tue 16-Jun-15 20:33:28

Ok thanks, I've wondered if he feels a pressure from being smart - there's no living up to the rest of us to do - he out smarts us all! It's funny how he seems very confident, chatting to everyone etc then he has these moments of total anxiety. You're right there's nothing wrong with being sensitive

TrollTheRespawnJeremy Tue 16-Jun-15 21:34:42

Unfortunately the cleverer they are the harder it is sometimes.

He'll find a balance, the important thing is for him to be comfortable in his own skin

PolterGoose Thu 18-Jun-15 17:04:22

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