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10 year old with autistic traits help and advice please(6 Posts)
Hi everyone , I have just joined after seeing mums net threads appearing when googling some of the many questions I have and seen the help other mums have received and am hoping for some advice
My son is now 10 and has had difficulties since about the age of 3 , he is very clever but has issues with change, obsessively sticks to rigid routines he has imposed on himself, will become extremely stressed in social situations and frequently lashes out at other children if things don't go his way or they get into his personal space or use something belonging to him, he's very sensitive to sound and taste , he comes across as being cheeky corrects people and questions everything takes things literally. These are just some examples the list goes on.
He was always gotten into trouble at school because of these issues and finds the unstructured time at playtimes and dinner times extremely difficult.
When he was 8 the educational psychologist finally spoke to me and assessed my son and said there were autistic traits and she would put some measures in place and review him in 6months . She never returned and every time I was called in I would ask the school to find out when he was being reviewed to no avail, until last year when a new educational psychologist took the position and picked up his file , by this point things were really difficult, I have to drop my son of late and in the main entrance , take him home every lunch time and collect him early from school to avoid him having a meltdown in the playground , this new educational psychologist has spoken to his teacher and asked her to be very specific when talking to my son and treat him a bit different from the other kids but this does not happen I have to collect him quite often as they will phone and say he has gotten emotional and an outburst an would be best if I take him home , he tells me she doesn't listen to him and she seems to have no tolerance for him, the problem is the educational psychologist has now left on maternity leave and no cover has been arranged yet, when I speak to the head teacher at the school she has a very good relationship with my son and has adapted her own methods in dealing with him but tries to be very diplomatic about his teacher even going as far as to say she hasn't been feeling very well "you know what it's like when you are unwell" my reply was "all year" ?? I feel I am at a loss , I cannot work because I have to be at there beck and call and be there every lunch time I am being supportive to them collecting him whenever they need me to but his teacher won't adapt her methods ... I know I have no official diagnosis of anything which may be why ( the head teacher is also compiling a report for referral but this seems to take a very long time ) at the moment he is missing out on a lot of work.
I would be grateful for any advice or if anyone else has similar problems let me know
It certainly does sound as if your ds has some ASD type difficulties. Would you get further if you asked your GP for a referral to CAMHS rather than waiting for the school to help?
Sorry tired lady I knew I had missed something, I went to my gp last Friday as I have been waiting since before Christmas on the school to put through there referral and felt this was a long time just to get to the first step
As a suggestion, why don't you try re posting this on the Special Needs board. You will find a lot of very knowledgeable mums there with children with ASD who have been through the system already.
I'm not quite sure how to do that will have a look thank you
There is a lovely forum for parents of children with ASD. It's very supportive and down to earth and has been a lifesaver for me.
I don't know how to do links on the iPad but if you google ASD Friendly you'll find it easily enough. You'll get some really good advice there and it helps a lot to read about others having similar experiences.
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