Just that really. I looked after my Dad for nearly 10 years as he deteriorated with dementia and complications with diabetes and died 5 years ago. My Mum and Dad split years ago and last year we lost my stepdad after a short battle with cancer. I took them to all the appointments and arranged everything.
During the last 20 years I have been my Mum’s port of call for everything and anything and I feel like she doesn’t help herself. During this time I’ve raised 3 children and all the usual household gumpf. I’ve recently started a degree as my husband has had an increase in his pay enabling me to do this. Now my Mum Just thinks I sit around doing nothing and feels fully entitled to call, text and ask me to do everything for her. Online shopping, deal with her financial matters, medical appointments, her WiFi, her phone...absolutely everything and I’ve got no more to give. She’s gone to stay with friends for a week and I though that might give us a break but no...she has text every day, rand multiple times yesterday to ask about her iPad even though I told her I was busy and text me this morning at 7.45 asking about what garden furniture is best...it’s as if she has become completely incapable of everything. I don’t know what to do because it makes me feel so guilty all the time. I’m 41 and feel like there was no gap between me growing up to start my life and then looking after everyone. I know people have much worse scenarios than me but I just feel at breaking point.
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RoloChocoloco · 25/04/2018 12:12
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