here is similar to one I used to use, it has two sleeping pods and a bit in the middle, the poles are easy to get up, the only tricky bit to do on your own is put the pole in the holes of the tent to make the tent erect. It can be done, aand just requires a wee bit of practise.
I actually manged to put mine up in the dark!!!
The proaction tundra tuneel type ones can be put up by one adult apart from a two minute section, we manage to do it with Sam about! In fact he rather likes camping as the environment might change, but the accomodation stays familiar.
Apparently our new Gelert Tahoma is easy- Ill be able to tell you next week, but the instructions look super simple. So I would say either a tunnel tent, a Khyam or the Gelert Easy Pitch tents.
Either this year or next to practice in the UK with a Eurotent short break.
Then next year or the year after try a Eurocamp or keycamp or something in France or Spain (long overnight ferry might be easier than whizzy day ferry but depends). DS2 at least will be able to go to the kids club, and ds3 as well from 2009, leaving us with some time to do something with ds1 (maybe even take it in turns to take him swimming whilst the other one has a break )
However I will need to be able to request end of cul de sac postion away from toilets and I need ds1 to stop wetting the bed on purpose.
DH thinks I am completely mad but is willing to give it a go abroad once ds3 has calmed down and if we can get sorted on the ferries (ferries are a nightmare).
am a bit late, but would still recommend a Khyam (ours is a lot smaller and more basic than the Tourer) but the concept is fab and genuinely possible to pitch alone without too much trouble.
Discovered on our return that it actually was a force 9 gale we had, so the tent did a fine job just staying put rather than taking off completely to fly across the Solent and land us in Southampton...
Thanks MrsB. I think a tent of our own would be impossoible for all sorts of reasons- I also think ds1 would be better in a rigid frame tent- he looked a bit scared of the lightweight ones in the wind the other day! (we went to an exhibition).
If you do decide a tent would work, we can arrange for you to borrow ours for a trial- even if just in the garden- its big but easy to pitch and would save you wasting money of DS doesn't take to it (know that one- fior us its a playstation <<<consternation emoticon>>>
We managed camping with ds last year but we did have to leave him strapped in the car while dh and I both put the tent up. Felt a bit mean at the end of a long journey but it was the only way. We only got a smallish tent as we didn't want to waste a load of money if ds was a complete nightmare but luckily he enjoyed it. The tent immediately became his comfort zone and he was happy in there with his gameboy which was a huge relief as our biggest fear was him escaping into the countryside! The best thing was that he adored the sleeping bag and the fresh air meant that he slept really well, much better than at home so I did actually get some rest and relaxation in the evening (well, bottle of wine and a Dick Francis anyway!).
Don't know if it would be any help re: bedwetting but the site we used had brilliant laundry facilites. It would have been quite easy to wash and dry a lightweight sleeping bag if we'd wanted to, even better with a spare to alternate.