Debden House - we went here last year to test out the new tent, as it's only 20 mins up the road from us. 20-30 mins walk/5 mins drive to the Central line tube, but you are in the middle of Epping Forest and would not know you were anywhere near London.
I reviewed it in detail on the MN Holiday review thingy, but it ticks all your boxes (down to the modest cafe, which we didn't use but smelled lovely!) and you can walk right into the forest from it, which is wonderful. The fire fields are the furthest away from 'civilisation' if that makes sense! You can't camp in the woods themselves, but the pitches are all around the outside of the field (except for 1 field where there are also a circle of them in the middle), all divided by hedges/backed by trees, iyswim.
Really enjoyed it and will be back again this year.
I was going to say Debden House, too. Haven't camped there yet, but hopefully will pop along for a few nights this summer. We drove over to have a look last year, and they seemed very friendly. (It's 20mins from me, too.)
Arh missed the bit about cafes and showers. That counts out Kitts Farm (last time they had neither) and Wowo, (no shop, though there was a hog roast and a communal stew!) and Palace Farm (no shop but good showers). Cafe at Forgewood, dont; know about showers as I stunk for that weekend!
BigTillyMint - yes, please, do talk to me about leg length discrepancy, I'm always happy to share our experience.
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And maybe the next MN development should be a MN campsite!
It would have lots of little woody glades to camp amongst - like many of those in the Canadian national and Provincial campgrounds, as well as a field part, and proper woods. Campfires would be allowed, there would be a dogs-allowed part and a none-dogs part, a quiet part, and a drunken singing til all hours part, excellent hot showers (including mixed sex family shower and changing rooms), a dishwasher facility in a barn - like a launderette, but with dishwashers instead, a launderette, an on-site shop selling essentials plus produce from the neighbouring farm, a Cobb Oven rental option, a little licensed cafe doing excellent coffee, good value nutritious food, and cakes.