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Happymuppet Thu 18-Sep-08 23:57:57

My 6 year old son was pushed off the climbing frame at school last teatime whilst in after school club by this young bully. I got the phone call i rushed down from work to see that my son had looked like he had smashed one side of his face. It was horrendous. The culprit child also has bitten my son 4 times so far also over the last year or two.(3 of which badly). I have had words with the school each time this has happened, to tell them this is not acceptable behaviour and what actions are they going to take etc. They spoke to the childs parents on all occasions and reassured me that it was all delt with. They also said that because they were in the same class that they would like to move my son to a new class for this Sept - i agreed. Then this incident happened yesterday in the school club,this child went specifically over to my son and pushed him off the frame, then ran off. Another child found my son laying face down with his head bashed into a wooden climbing block they use to climb onto the frame!!! My son said that he couldnt get up because his legs were shaking and a teacher came to get him. God i was so upset. I spent 3 hours at A&E with him, they are not sure if he has broken his nose or not. This morning he couldnt open his eye from the swelling. Its his 7th birthday in a weeks time! They called a meeting and said that they will remove the child from after school club but have to give his parents 2 weeks notice to do so, during this 2 weeks they will have a teacher shadow this kid around to make sure he dosnt injure my son or anyone else's for that matter. What else? I feel that that isnt enough. I am scared for my son to go back to school, he said that he doesnt want to go back because he doesnt want to see R..ce again incase he hurts him. I have been in floods of tears. Can i claim compensation? Can i sue for Negligence? As the school knew that this child was a threat to mine. No one came to my son's aid as he wasnt being watched..another child alerted them. Please please advise me where to go from here.

Bowddee Fri 19-Sep-08 00:00:19

No idea, but I can't ignore your post.

Good luck.

TeenyTinyTorya Fri 19-Sep-08 00:00:26

I have no advice, but feel so sorry for you and your son, and hope you get something sorted out soon.

Spidermama Fri 19-Sep-08 00:04:10

OMG HappyMuppet I'm so sorry for you and your little boy. What a nightmare.

I don't think it's good enough to say he gets 2 weeks notice. Sure he must be immediately banned or at least suspended from this club, if not the school.. ]

I would want an emergency meeting with the school and the club organisers. I'd want the school to talk to his parents and I would aloready be writing my letter to Ofsted who take bullying very seriously.

You must be so angry. I wish you and your boy all the very best with this. He should not have to put up with this.

Saturn74 Fri 19-Sep-08 00:10:11

How terrible for your poor DS. sad

The lack of supervision is a big concern, particularly considering the history between your DS and this boy, and his previous aggressive behaviour.

Are the school responsible for the after school club, or is it run by an outside agency?

If it is the school, I think you need to formalise your feelings in a letter to the Headteacher, and copy it to the Chair of Governors.

Ask for a copy of the school's anti-bullying policy, and request a reply in writing with assurances of how they are going to ensure your son is safe when he is in their care.

So sorry you're all going through this.

foxytocin Fri 19-Sep-08 00:44:32

Take pictures of your son's injuries. Get a copy of the A&E visit. Write down a short statement of what happened on the day according to what you have said so far ie, a child found your son, ie a teacher was not supervising at the time.

Do you have any dates of previous incidents and meetings with school etc. ie a log of past events?

Go to the LEA and send copy of any correspondence to the parents' representative on the board of governors.

Your child has rights and the school has responsibilities under Every Child Matters. Google it.

nametaken Fri 19-Sep-08 14:05:08

HM - just wanted to say how sorry I am at your shocking story.

If the parents have any money (even if it's tied up in their property) then yes, you can sue them.

Hope your son starts to feel better soon. What an unbelievably shit thing to happen.

nervousal Fri 19-Sep-08 14:12:05

Sorry - no advice but just wanted to post to say how sorry I am that your son is having to go throught this.

I KNOW that children don't always appreciate the outcomes of their actions etc - but its ridiculous to think that if it was an adult doing this to another adult the police would be involved.

Hope your son's feeling better soon

Happymuppet Fri 19-Sep-08 22:23:33

HI, Thank you for the responses. I went into school again today with my x husband to air our views. We both told the school that a 2 week notice isnt good enough what happens to my son in the meantime? What happens at break times? Is this child able to run freely upto another child and do the same? They decided that they would rule out the childs play time and that he would have to walk round at all times holding a teachers hand during play time. That he was to be expelled if it happens again. I have reported it to the police and that they will take a statement and visit the school to discuss the issue - with bullying etc. As my x is a health and safety officer we got them on that too!!! That they had a wooden climbing box that my son fell into (as it was upturned) and that it overuled the play area as safe as the floor around the area is that spongy fake tarmak then they had a solid wooden block there. They will remove this from now on. I gave the school big photos of my sons face on day 1,2 & 3 in order to show the parents, they have agreed to do this,also for police evidence. The afterschool club is run by the school in their hall. They have advised me that every area of weakness will be tightened. What else is there to say except pray that this kid gets removed from the school and my son plays safe. (by the way apparently the school told the parents they have 2 weeks notice to remove from a.s club or quicker where possible). He was collected from school today with no school club!!!

critterjitter Fri 10-Oct-08 23:11:05

shock I feel extremely sorry for your son and you both. I would probably report the matter to the Governors and Ofsted(and send them the photos). I'd hope that the police intervention will make the school sit up and do something (and the parents).

I'm surprised that the school are quoting 2 weeks notice in terms of the after school club. Isn't there a clause in any contract signed by the parents, that the club has the right to refuse admission where violence etc/ health and safety issues arise?

Have you spoken to ACE? They are very good.

choccynutter Mon 13-Oct-08 18:18:03


choccynutter Mon 13-Oct-08 18:19:20

sorry caps was on i didn't even relise doh

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