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How can I help my DD?

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nudyjudy Mon 08-Sep-08 20:35:51

I don't think that this is really bullying, but not sure where else to post...

DD1 is 4 and a half and has just started reception. Today was her 4th day at school, and I was greeted by the teacher when I came to pick her up, saying she had bitten another child. Actually it is the daughter of my best friend, and they have always had a bit of a tempestuous friendship. Apparently, they were fighting over a toy, but I think it might have had more to do with DD trying to make friends with another little girl in the class, but she didn't want to play with her today, and played with BFs DD instead (IYSWIM)

DD has always seemed to have a bit of trouble with her temper, and was a frequent biter until the age of about 3 when she (finally) appeared to grow out of it.

The teacher gave DD time out, and suggested that she made a card to say sorry, which I think is a reasonable approach to take. And I have had chats with DD about how she needs to find ways to control her temper and that other children won't want to be friends with her if she bites.

But if anyone else can offer any other advice on how to handle this I'd be really grateful.

nudyjudy Mon 08-Sep-08 20:40:11

sorry, to be clear, the other little girl didn't want to play with my DD today, and played with best friend's DD instead.

I realise starting school is a very unsettling time for DD, but I am so upset that this has happened. How can I help her to think before she acts?

nudyjudy Mon 08-Sep-08 20:59:59


crunchynutter Mon 08-Sep-08 21:12:42

hi. I an by no means an expert but it sounds like the teacher reacted well. Do you have regular supervised play dates? If you have 2other children round then you would be able to intervene when you can see she is getting frustrated and may be able to find a way to help her calm down and express herself better? I wouldn't worry too much though as she is young and these things do happen (as the teacher response shows!) good luck! Xx

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