How do I write a cracking complaint letter to school?

[Elw80]

I need help in how to take this further... I’m laying here wide awake, listening to the wind and dreading sending my son (age 9) back to school tomorrow.

Short story... he’s been bullied by a boy in his class for over a year, physically & verbally. Boy has hit my son, called him a fu*ing prk, a fuing fat slg, stolen his bag, strangled him etc etc... He’s not from a very nice family.. think Jeremy Kyle! The mother of said child has physically & verbally assaulted me in the school playground because I’ve made complaints about her child! Police are involved. I’ve had perhaps 8 meetings with school and each time they’ve failed to do anything bad telling bully to respect my son which he has done until th next day and then called him F this or F the that! After last assault by parent on myself my husband and I had a meeting with head where I broke down and I was assured that they would do something proactive about it and also keep my son safe from this mother (whom threaten to get us both my Son and I again at the school) however I have not heard a single thing back from the head which was over a month ago and when I tried to speak to someone in the Senior leadership team as they call it, I have repeatedly been Fobbed off with not available! I am fed up of the school and their quite frankly don’t give a toss attitude! I’ve called my local authority and have tried to find my son a place at another school but there is literally not a single place available at any school in the area!! I’m at a loss as to what to do and it’s starting to make me ill and more importantly it is having such a dreadful affect on my son! Sorry for the rambling but it’s 1am and I can’t sleep for worrying! Thank you

[Elw80]

See I should have spell checked first! Should say school haven’t done anything Bar (not Bad) telling bully

[rose69]

Write a simple email to Chair if governors with head teacher and chief executive of your local council copies in

[AMumma16]

Note dates and times and how it’s affecting your child. Look at school policies and show these to the governors along with responses from the school.
If you have any more meetings I would take a witness.
Awful for your child.
Good luck :)

[Hawaf]

Teach your boy self defence. He needs to floor the bully once and that will be the end of it.
Find a local martial arts club. Martial arts will also help build his confidence.
That is my sincere advice.
Prolonged bullying can sometimes have life long consequences.

[coffeeeandtv]

Elw80.... I have just come across your post and I wanted to ask you how you and your son are?
Decent parents have to stick together, I am very fortunate to have never been in your actual position but I experienced the son of the school secretary and governor showing extreme behaviour in primary school without ever being brought to account (the teachers and head wouldn't believe that this child would be capable of such manipulative and violent behaviour)
This boy is now older and having witnessed the behaviour of his father I can understand where he has learned to behave from. Learning karate or another martial art is a fantastic idea, the particular boy I'm referring to attacked both boys and girls and started on my son until he grew 'a pair' and used his own black belt in karate skills and defended himself, also if you are not receiving an adequate response from school contact the chair of governors and the LEA or ofstead as trust me the head will respond then. Best of luck and remember parents just because it isn't your child (now) doesn't mean it won't be yours in the future if we as decent humans, support each other now by explaining to our children why they shouldn't sit and do nothing whilst others are being bullied but to tell a teacher/head then the bullies may think twice about their actions if they are not impressing others.

[Fustyoldcarcass]

I have just written a long post and then realised it's over a month old now! I will post anyway incase you're still having issues.

Sorry to hear you and your son are going through this. It sounds terrible and I hope the school finally address this.

I have no experience in this area (my son isn't in school yet), but I would report them to the local authority, school governors and ofsted. The school should provide a safe environment for all children and parents and should be dealing with this. Go through their bullying policy and highlight where they are breaching it.

Also look at legislation around harassment if you have any evidence if this. If your son has any psychological trauma which has required intervention, or any physical signs of abuse you should also evidence this. A threat to go to the press if you are forced to take your child out of school usually gets a response too! I think people will keep brushing this under the carpet until you have all of the evidence in front of you and then they take notice as it can be seen by their superiors.

I think the local authority failing to find your son a place at another school is a poor excuse. The child is being abused and they should do what they can to protect him.

It isn't really helping the other child who is the bully either as he probably has his own issues that aren't being addressed. Bullying behaviour is not a sign of a healthy, well-adjusted child.

This might sound extreme, but it sounds like it's called for! Hope you get this sorted and your school finally take action. It's sad that after all these years there isn't a robust anti-bullying system in place and children continue to suffer.